relationships and the bedroom

Undoubtedly, a woman's breasts rank up high on the erogenous zones list. Breasts have many nerve endings that it doesn't really require a lot of effort to stimulate a woman via her breasts or nipples. However, simple stimulation is not what we're after, right? You want her to be really sensually turned on when you start paying attention to her breasts.

Think of it this way: be the man who's so good at stimulating her via her breasts that she feels like she's reaching a climax.

How to Treat Her Breasts Properly

When it comes to breast or nipple fondling, women have two major complaints. The first is that men manhandle their breasts, and two, men don't give their breasts enough attention! Just like passionate kissing, it seems that most men pay attention to breasts during lovemaking only for a few short minutes. (Yes, the required few minutes of foreplay prior intercourse.)

Let's address the first thing first. I know you're in the throes of passion but really, there's no reason to be rough with her breasts. How would you like it if we were rough on your manhood? So be gentle and don't grab and squeeze. In fact, the gentler you are, the more turned on we women get!

Secondly, women's nipples can be a real source of erotic sexuality so it's a shame not to stimulate us longer via our nipples. Think of it this way: the more attention our breasts receive, the higher the chances of us reaching an orgasm, which of course earns major bonus sex points for you!

How to Give Her a Breast Massage

So let's get down to the nitty-gritty, how can you best lavish attention on your woman's breasts tonight?

First, why not give her a breast massage? Ask your partner to sit naked in front of you. (You can also have her lie down with her head on your lap.) Reach forward, embrace her, and then start cupping her breasts. Stroke her breasts slowly with circular movements. (Movement should be counterclockwise on the right breast, and clockwise on the left breast.) Do this for at least 35 times.

Naughty tip: While giving her a breast massage, kiss and nibble the back of her neck and her shoulders.

Now, do the `cup and hold'. Gently cup her breasts and simply cover them with your hands. The heat from your palms will soon transcend to her breast and into her body.

The techniques are all meant to relax your lover's mind while sexually stimulating her at the same time. But after the breast massage, it's time to really stimulate her! Read on to see what pleasure techniques you can use on her tonight.

6 Ways to Lavish Attention on Her Breast Tonight

One: During foreplay, feel free to fondle her breasts. (Again, fondle, not manhandle.) Draw lazy circles around her breasts and when her nipples are erect, open your hands and with your palms lying flat on her nipples, gently draw open circles. Be sure that your palms are `barely touching' her nipples. This `barely there' feeling is guaranteed to sexually stimulate your woman!

Two: Sniff her nipples. Yes, sniff. Bring your nose close to her erect nipple and start to inhale her scent.

Three: Butterfly kiss her nipples. This means you position your eyes till they're but a breath away from her nipples and then flutter them open and close. The feel of your eyelids brushing faintly, yet frantically against her nipples is guaranteed to drive her crazy!

Four: Lick the sides of her breasts with long, wet licks. Place your tongue flat on her chest or underneath her breast and from there lick till you reach the very top of her nipple 9apply a bit of pressure). Once at the top, slide your tongue so that her erect nipple is at the very end of your tongue... now flick your tongue over her nipple.

Five: Be like a puppy and apply short, wet and frantic licks on her erect nipple.

Six: Suck your woman's breasts. Kiss her nipple and then slowly lower your mouth so that it engulfs her whole breast or as much as you can take in). Now slowly pull your mouth upwards, sucking ever so gently as you pull up. A variation of this is to gently apply a bit of teeth against her breast as you pull up.

There you have it. Six wonderful ways to sexually arouse your woman via her breasts and nipples. Try one or all of the above tips and I guarantee, she'll be VERY grateful to you.

by Gabrielle Moore

Labels: female, marriage, orgasm, relationships, sexuality, Stimulation

One of the most interesting things about giving women the kind of mind blowing orgasms that are guaranteed to have her wanting you more or more is in the fact that the real secret to giving her those kinds of experiences is in sexual foreplay.

What you may not know that sexual foreplay when done correctly starts way before she might even be beginning to think about sex.

In this article, you will learn 3 sexual foreplay techniques to use on a woman that will help you give her the most amazing mind blowing orgasms that she has ever experienced.

Sexual Foreplay Technique #1 - Turning her on when out in Public

Turning a woman on in public is both easy and effective for the same reasons which are it is unexpected and highly romantic.

It also lets the woman that you are with know that you find her attractive and the kind of woman that you want to be seen with.

Some things that you might want to consider doing with her in public are kissing or touching her in a provocative way.

Once you realize and remember that sexual foreplay starts long before sex you will find a variety of different ways in which you can turn her on.

Another great one to do in public is playing footsies underneath the table with her.

Sexual Foreplay Technique #2 - Creating the Right Kind of Mood or Ambience

Once the two of you are at your place you want to make sure that the environment that you will have her in will allow her to relax and at the same time become highly aroused.

Turning down the lights, lighting some candles and playing some soft and soothing music in the background is one of the best ways of creating the kind of atmosphere that will allow her to physically and mentally be ready for the sexual experience.

Sexual Foreplay Technique #3 Sensual Massage

Hands down giving a woman a sensual massage is the most effective foreplay technique that you can use especially if you are planning on ending the night by giving her the most intense and mind blowing orgasm that you can think of.

In terms of preparing a woman for sex, nothing is as good as giving her a sensual massage. One tip that you are going to want to consider when giving a woman a sensual massage is using a massage oil that has pleasant fragrance to it and at the same time warms her skin her as well.

Since the two of you are still in the sexual foreplay phase and not at the sexual intercourse one yet, start off by rubbing her shoulders and necks then moving your way down to her back and legs.

From this point you are going to want her to roll over and if you truly do have the magic touch she is going to be wet in anticipation of what is going to come next.

However, while she might be ready for more your goal during sexual foreplay is to get her as highly aroused as possible which means continue to give her a massage and then at the end move to her more sexual parts such as her breast, vagina, and clitoris.

Once, you find yourself at the point where you are ready to stimulate her clitoris and move on to more sexual intercourse type activities apply G Female Stimulating Gel underneath the hood of her clitoris and gently massage it in.

At this point, if you did the 3 sexual foreplay techniques above correctly and effectively it will be only a matter of moments that the woman that you are with has the kind of mind blowing orgasms that make all that time you spent on sexual foreplay worthwhile.

by Trey Osborne
www.articlesbase.com

Labels: clitoris, foreplay, oral sex, orgasm, sensual, sexual

King Arthur’s bold knights were sent on a crusade to find and bring back the Holy Grail. The devious pirates of the Caribbean have continuously set out to search for gold and treasure. Explorers and adventurers are on an unending quest for immortality and the fountain of youth. This and many more unbelievable pursuits are testaments to how much men try to find what is almost impossible. Perhaps one of the most un-findable among these treasures is the woman’s walnut-like arousal button called the G-spot.

The G-spot has been shrouded in mystery all these years because it is almost impossible to find. It is said to drive a woman wild with nothing but the slightest touch. With these simple steps, you can be on your way to rocking your partner’s world. After touching her in all the right places, you can soon find that she will do everything for you. So read up and be on your way to finding her true satisfaction.

1. Get her to lie down. You can also do it standing up but if you are new to this game, you would be best served by having her lying down. Kiss her firmly on the lips and lay her on the bed. Undress her slowly to get her in the mood. Don’t stop kissing and caressing as you slowly peel away her clothes. Once you have her down to her birthday suit, it is now time to go on to second part of your plan.
2. Get her warmed up. The nest step is vital because it will prepare her for the actual search of the G-spot. You can start with some oral sex to prepare for what is to come. This should get her nice and wet. The more aroused she is, the better she will able to receive your searching fingers. Play with her clitoris and labia to get it nice and soft. Tease her a little bit by inserting a portion of your fingers. While you are doing this, continue kissing her all over her body. As she gets ready to receive more and more of your finger, then you can set the final stage of your plan.
3. Now that hits the spot. Now that you finger is in, feel for the G-spot at the front wall of the vagina. You should find a round walnut-like bump at about 2 inches above the vulva. Lightly tap this bump and see how she reacts. If she moans approvingly, then you are well on your way. Massage it softly until her breaths come closer and closer together. You should also feel the walls of her vagina tighten up. Continue massaging the G-spot, slightly quickening the pace. As she reaches her orgasm, kiss her firmly on the lips and smile approvingly.

Congratulations! You have just solved one of the most enduring mysteries. Now that you have found the infamous G-spot, you have proven to be one of the greatest explorers in known history. Now if you can just spot Big Foot and the Loch Ness Monster, then there will be no doubt to your greatness as an explorer.


By josh gelman

Labels: clitoris, cunt, finger, G-spot, orgasm, vagina

When a man is stimulated sexually by a partner he finds it difficult to avoid becoming aroused. Similarly, if a woman's response to penile thrusting (or any other physical stimulation technique) was automatic then women would presumably be unable to avoid becoming aroused whatever their conscious desires. The truth is that women have to learn how to orgasm.

"I only ever orgasm with a partner through oral sex and only if he's really good at it. Lots of my girlfriends claim they come during intercourse but to be honest, I don't believe them. I'm sexually educated and have a high, healthy libido and if I don't have vaginal orgasms, I can't see why they would." (p102 Hot Sex 1998)

If only we could all apply such good common sense to life! We have very few channels for sharing our sexual experiences. Sometimes we assume that others must experience real life quite differently to ourselves even though there is no logical reason why they should. So don't take too much notice of what other people say because bluffers, fakers and sex surveys do not provide reliable sex information.

"Read all the sex surveys you want but you still won't really know what other people do in bed because what people say and what people do are two totally different things." (p275 Hot Sex 1998)

The sexual fantasy view of female sexuality

When I have tried to talk to others about sex (not as a teenager but as a mature woman), I have been shocked by how defensive people can be. I accept that there are women who claim to have easy orgasmic sex from day one and I am very happy for them. But this is not the case for all women.

Don't get me wrong - I would love to believe that couples can enjoy the mutual and easy sexual pleasure portrayed in porn movies and erotic novels. It's just that, for me, reality never matched up and I think it is more useful to work with reality rather than hanker after some impossible-to-achieve fantasy. Sexual ego is harmful if it prevents us from keeping an open mind and being willing to learn from our real-life sexual experiences.

Personally, I have never found the so-called 'G-spot' nor have I experienced multiple orgasms. There are plenty of jokes about nymphomaniacs but I have never met a woman with this condition in real life. Whether these aspects of female sexuality are myths or simply rare occurrences, they undermine any attempt to generalise about the average woman's experience of sex.

My partner joked that he will most likely to die of old age before he gets around to trying all the different suggestions on the web for locating a woman's G-spot! The G-spot may be amazing but if it is so obscure then just how useful is it to the average couple? This search for the holy grail is yet another indication of how many women struggle with orgasm during sex.

As soon as I experienced a lack of sexual arousal during sex with a partner, I suspected that descriptions of women's ability to orgasm easily during sex must be fictitious. So why have women not stood up and said: "But that's ridiculous. My body and brain just do not react like that!"

One obvious reason is personal embarrassment. Another is that, although as heterosexual women our physical responses must be similar, our emotional interpretation of our sexual experiences can be quite different depending on our attitude and our expectations.

Finally we are all, often quite subconsciously, guilty of becoming defensive of our sexual fantasies and sexual egos. Emotionally we want to believe the fantasy because we cannot accept the facts even when they are laid out before us. The concept of 'that's just the way it is - take it or leave it' does not appeal.

Unfortunately, sex information for women is often misleading and advice is often vague because, for the most part, sex experts deal with sexual dysfunction and young people's ignorance of the basic sexual facts. In fact, there is no intentional campaign to disseminate misinformation but simply a lack of understanding in an intensely personal area of our lives.

By Jane Thomas
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Labels: aroused, orgasm, sex, sexual

Everyone wants to have great, hot, steamy sex every time but the reality is that sex in a long term relationship can get a bit stale. Better lovemaking becomes the goal of many couples in this situation who frantically look for new things to try but end up making some bad lovemaking mistakes that actually makes their experience less than what it was before!

In the interests of better love making everywhere here are some of the most common mistakes that lovers tend to making in their quest for better sex.

1. Being Too Scared/Embarrassed To Talk About New Things
This is all too common and really shouldn’t be as the person we are making love to should be the person we can communicate with about these things best! Sometimes we may be worried about what they may think however but for the most part your partner will crave new things too so go ahead and ask! It does not need to be crude or kinky but there are thousands of ways to add excitement and passion to your lovemaking that you can explore only if you talk and become comfortable with it!

2. Convincing Them To Have Sex
Oh boy, men mainly make this mistake, but sometime women too! If your lover is not in the mood for sex as they are too tired or distracted then trying to talk them into it is not going to work. Instead you have to raise their arousal levels slowly because when the body becomes sexually interested it releases adrenaline into the system giving energy to make love.

Ladies - If your man seems disinterested in sex but you need some love don’t just expect a man to jump at the chance if they really are tired. Instead pay some attention to his manhood by fellatio or by hand. Men are also visual creatures so wearing something sexy or nothing at all will help! An interesting point is that a man’s testosterone levels are highest at 9-10 AM during the day so this is the best time to get him turned on.

Men - Women are very different from us, do not rush in to the obvious sexual areas to turn them on, leave the breasts and crotch alone and concentrate on looking into her eyes, kissing her neck lightly and stroking area near the obvious sexual ones gently. Go slow and when they react positively move to kissing the mouth and so on.

3. Rushing Foreplay To Get To Intercourse
Again many people look at men as the main offenders here but sometimes women do the same and both end up missing out on something amazing. Did you know that lot’s of foreplay actually adds to the intensity of an orgasm for both men AND women?
The more you kiss, touch, caress and so forth before the act of intercourse the more aroused we become and more feel good chemicals in our body are produced or build up for the climax. This means that it is ALWAYS a good idea to just slow it down a little and enjoy playing some games with each other and pleasuring them without intercourse for as long as you can before you just have to move on!

4. Getting Sex Toys Or Porn For Your Lovemaking
There is a time and a place for these things but sometimes we tend to rush into these things to soon when we hit a rough patch sexually and it backfires.
Why? Because you do not your lover to end up looking more forward to the plastic toy or watching the porn than actually finding pleasure in each others bodies! Before you include any of these things you need to know how to please your partner in all ways before introducing something else … use these things as spice and variety not as a central part of your lovemaking.

5. Trying To Climax Your Woman From Just Intercourse
Ok Guys and girls listen up. Men, you might feel less of a man if you can not satisfy your girl from intercourse but the reality is that this is not always going to happen and it is not your fault! Some women can not achieve orgasm through intercourse even and those that can sometimes have difficulty depending on a range of factors including the time of the month, hormone levels, mood and so on.
Girls, by the same token do not put pressure on men to make you orgasm from intercourse as there are many other ways to climax if you let your man try some things!
One of the best ways to do this is by mastering the art of cunnilingus (going down on your women). If done right all pressure is off you on the lovemaking because you can make her climax with just your mouth and tongue.

6. Trying For Simultaneous Orgasms
This is seriously overrated, instead of being some mystical moment of combined pleasure where you come as one it ends up being a labor of timing and holding off and stuffing around and when it does happen … that connection is not actually there.
Instead you should focus completely on satisfying the woman’s needs first because women take a lot longer and are harder to climax than a man most of the time. Once you both learn to give totally to the other in lovemaking it becomes even more intense as the connection comes from being able to give such an experience and take it in with all your senses.

That’s the secret.

7. Do What Works Best … Every time
A little sarcasm there … sorry! While you might understand you need to break out of a routine for better lovemaking some people are afraid to vary too much thinking if it ain’t broke why fix it? The reason it ‘wear and tear’ to take the machine metaphor a step further, while it may not break or fail a boring sex life even if it is still enjoyable can have dire effects on your relationship especially if you also make mistake number one.

Instead be open to change a bit at a time, no need to try new things all the time every time but without spice and variety and excitement sex loses that spark that brings couples together so closely at the beginning of a relationship.

So what is the secret to better lovemaking? The answer is having enough knowledge, tips and ideas to spice up your sex long into the future because the only way to recreate the excitement and enthusiasm that we once had is to make it new again in small ways every time.

By: James Fargo

Labels: kiss, make love, orgasm, relationship, sex, touch

By Emily Winslow

Did you know that as much as 46% of women are unhappy with their sex life? Much of this is due to sexual frustration and low female sex drive. There are many causes for low female sex drive and part of that is due to the fact that the female sex drive is more sensitive to environmental, physical, and psychological influences than men.

So how do you increase a female's sex drive? The answer is by working with some of the major causes that lower female sexual desire. Let's take a look.

1. Stress and Low Female Sex Drive

As mentioned above stress has a great impact on the female drive. When your woman is thinking about work, kids, or finances her mind is overwhelmed with anxiety that sex is the farthest thing on her mind. However, this is important to increasing the female sex drive.

It is said that a woman must first convince herself to want sex before she is ready for it. Yes, this is true. Recall those times when sex was painful for her? This is because when the brain receives arousal signals it prepares her body for sex.

Her vaginal fluids and the depth of the vagina increase in order to accommodate penetration. When a woman is not in the mood, all those bodily changes that require her to enjoy sex don't occur thus she experiences pain and discomfort during sex. This creates a negative experience about sex and could cause her to resent it.

Therefore, the key for better sex first starts in the mind. Help your woman relax and de-stress so that she is more open to intimacy and sexual advances. Have her take on activities to de-stress like yoga or work to make her day a little easier by giving her a hand with household chores. Although this may sound simple, a huge cause for low female sex drive is psychological ones such as stress. Combating stress is the first step to re-igniting her sexual spark.

2. Female Sex Drive Enhancers

Physical influences such as low genital blood flow are one of the major causes for low sex drive and performance in men
and women. This discovery prompted many developments in sexual enhancement products. Soon products like Viagra and Enzyte were available for men to increase genital blood flow, sexual performance, and arousal. But what about women? Women too suffer from these causes and want to enhance their sex life as well.

Now, new female sex drive enhancers work to increase female arousal and ability to orgasm by stimulating clitoral blood flow. How do they work? These libido enhancers use L-Arginine, a natural amino acid which works to increase clitoral blood flow and sensitivity. This promotes sexual arousal in women and her ability to orgasm.

L-arginine cream instantly works to increase clitoral blood blow and is applied right before sex. Within a minute you will feel a tingly sensation and be highly aroused. As clitoral blood flow increase so does your ability to orgasm. Consider libido enhancers such as Femelle to increase your female sex drive.

3. Female Sex Drive Mood Lifters

Because women are so sensitive to their environment, taking the time to set the mood can really help to turn her on. Play romantic or relaxing music at home, light some candles, turn off your cell phones and eliminate distractions. Create an environment of intimacy. This could be as simple as buying satin sheets so that the bed looks more like a place for sex and not for sleep.

A great technique for setting the mood is giving her a massage. You don't have to be an expert even a slight rub down works wonders to stimulate blood flow in all the right areas!

Finally, remember increasing the female sex drive involves nurturing psychological, physical, and environmental factors. A woman wants sex but her greatest problem is convincing herself. You can do this by de-stressing her mind or with libido enhancers which create sensations in her body that she can't ignore!

Labels: couple, female, libido, massage, orgasm, set the mood, sex, sex drive