relationships and the bedroom

By Emily Winslow

Did you know that as much as 46% of women are unhappy with their sex life? Much of this is due to sexual frustration and low female sex drive. There are many causes for low female sex drive and part of that is due to the fact that the female sex drive is more sensitive to environmental, physical, and psychological influences than men.

So how do you increase a female's sex drive? The answer is by working with some of the major causes that lower female sexual desire. Let's take a look.

1. Stress and Low Female Sex Drive

As mentioned above stress has a great impact on the female drive. When your woman is thinking about work, kids, or finances her mind is overwhelmed with anxiety that sex is the farthest thing on her mind. However, this is important to increasing the female sex drive.

It is said that a woman must first convince herself to want sex before she is ready for it. Yes, this is true. Recall those times when sex was painful for her? This is because when the brain receives arousal signals it prepares her body for sex.

Her vaginal fluids and the depth of the vagina increase in order to accommodate penetration. When a woman is not in the mood, all those bodily changes that require her to enjoy sex don't occur thus she experiences pain and discomfort during sex. This creates a negative experience about sex and could cause her to resent it.

Therefore, the key for better sex first starts in the mind. Help your woman relax and de-stress so that she is more open to intimacy and sexual advances. Have her take on activities to de-stress like yoga or work to make her day a little easier by giving her a hand with household chores. Although this may sound simple, a huge cause for low female sex drive is psychological ones such as stress. Combating stress is the first step to re-igniting her sexual spark.

2. Female Sex Drive Enhancers

Physical influences such as low genital blood flow are one of the major causes for low sex drive and performance in men
and women. This discovery prompted many developments in sexual enhancement products. Soon products like Viagra and Enzyte were available for men to increase genital blood flow, sexual performance, and arousal. But what about women? Women too suffer from these causes and want to enhance their sex life as well.

Now, new female sex drive enhancers work to increase female arousal and ability to orgasm by stimulating clitoral blood flow. How do they work? These libido enhancers use L-Arginine, a natural amino acid which works to increase clitoral blood flow and sensitivity. This promotes sexual arousal in women and her ability to orgasm.

L-arginine cream instantly works to increase clitoral blood blow and is applied right before sex. Within a minute you will feel a tingly sensation and be highly aroused. As clitoral blood flow increase so does your ability to orgasm. Consider libido enhancers such as Femelle to increase your female sex drive.

3. Female Sex Drive Mood Lifters

Because women are so sensitive to their environment, taking the time to set the mood can really help to turn her on. Play romantic or relaxing music at home, light some candles, turn off your cell phones and eliminate distractions. Create an environment of intimacy. This could be as simple as buying satin sheets so that the bed looks more like a place for sex and not for sleep.

A great technique for setting the mood is giving her a massage. You don't have to be an expert even a slight rub down works wonders to stimulate blood flow in all the right areas!

Finally, remember increasing the female sex drive involves nurturing psychological, physical, and environmental factors. A woman wants sex but her greatest problem is convincing herself. You can do this by de-stressing her mind or with libido enhancers which create sensations in her body that she can't ignore!

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This Valentine's Day, celebrate by giving each other a sensual massage. Not only is this a wonderfully romantic act that will wow your special someone, but it's inexpensive to do.

Item's needed for the massage:
- Lotion or oil to massage with
- Quiet place to give the massage
- Music to relax too
- Scented candles to provide lighting and create a romantic atmosphere

Preparation for the massage:
- Prior to the massage, ask the massage receiver if they have favorite places they like massaged (such as scalp and neck) or don't like massaged (ticklish feet).
- Another thing to look for is any bruises or broken skin. These areas should be avoided during the massage.
- For the person receiving the massage, if the massage is on a bed, have them lay face down with their head at the foot of the bed (reverse of normal sleeping position). One of the secrets to giving a great massage is being comfortable while doing it. By standing at the foot of the bed during a massage, you have easy and comfortable access to massaging the back and neck.
- The person receiving the massage should be disrobed at much as comfortably possible.
- Before starting the massage, turn off all phones and electronic gizmos.

Giving the massage:
- For most amateur massagers, the safest and most effective technique is effleurage. This technique is a broad, sliding stroke that is intensely relaxing. In addition, in the right environment it is very sensual. Effleurage is also the most commonly used stroke for Swedish massage.
- For great video examples of the effleurage technique and massage, search on YouTube. There are some great playlists demonstrating this technique. Massage is a great example where an image is worth a thousand words.

Receiving the massage:
- Provide feedback. Whether it's with words, by a moan of pleasure or a squeal of pain, let the person massaging you know what works and what doesn't. This is one of those few times it's all about you, so make the most of it.

Additional Tips:
- Don't eat a heavy meal prior to the massages. The combination of lots of food and the massage will make the first person who received the massage want to go to sleep after their massage. This can lead to frustration for the other person!

- The ideal situation is a light meal with some wine, give each other massages and then follow-up with a heavier meal later, if so desired.

Follow the above guidelines and you are guaranteed an evening of sensual romance, making this Valentine's Day the best ever!

By: Tina Woodall

Article Source: http://www.articlekingpro.com

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• by REBECCA DEOS
  
  
  With everyone tightening their belts this year, there is no reason that Valentine’s Day needs to suffer. Quite to the contrary, building an evening of romance on a limited budget is a great exercise to show that love romance and intimacy is not tied to your wallet or pocketbook. It’s simply about the two of you spending time together, sharing and having fun.
  
  
  With everyone’s lives being extremely stressful this year, a great theme for Valentine’s Day is “Teamwork!” Use Valentine’s Day as a reminder of the basics: Whatever situation the economy has put you in, you are a team and can get through it together.
  
  
  Here are a few tips to begin thinking about for this Valentine’s Day.
  
  
• Lower your expectations.Like many holidays, we seem to build expectations of what would constitute the perfect Valentine’s Day. Anything short of that perfect vision then leaves you feeling unsatisfied. There are many things out of your control, understand that real life will more than likely interfere at some point.
  
• Plan with your partner. We all like surprises and to see our partner make the effort to plan something they think we would enjoy. With life being extremely stressful this year, make it a team building exercise and plan it together.
  
• Think communication. Last month, we found a store than sells bulk candy, including some of the cheap penny candies we haven’t seen since we were kids. We filled the bag, and plan on eating it on Valentine’s Day, talking about the childhood memories the candy brings back. Similarly, look through childhood pictures, yearbooks or mementos and the memories associated with it. You’ll be surprised at how fulfilling it can be, and how much you can still learn about your partner.
  
• Eating Out. Going out to dinner is a Valentine’s Day tradition for many. If it’s a tradition you would like to keep, begin searching your local newspaper now for Valentine’s Day specials. Also search online for coupons and specials. It doesn’t sound sexy or romantic, but also doesn’t leave you with regret the next day for breaking your budget. Planning it ahead gives you the opportunity to scout the best deals plan your budget and not be stressed about it on Valentine’s Day.
  
• Eating In If you are planning on staying in, plan a meal you can cook together. A variety of small finger foods is great, since you can cook, nibble and talk all at the same time.
  
• No TV, no movies TV and movies allow you to do one thing, watch. Think interaction instead. Ask friends if you can borrow a few board games that you don’t currently own for the evening, so that you have a variety of different to choose from.
  
• Mentally prepare With the stresses of daily life, it becomes hard to suddenly unwind and relax. Everyone needs downtime from the business end of life to recharge their batteries. Begin reminding yourself now that you are allowed to take time off from the worries of daily life and enjoy each other’s company.
  
• Pick an evening or two before Valentine’s Day to spend some time together. It’s only natural that sitting down and spending time together wil lead to discussions of work, finance and the kids. Planning on time beforehand allows you to purge yourself of those issues, and make Valentine’s Day about the two of you.

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Labels: body, couple, errogenous, sex, touch, zones

Men are just as sensitive in the bedroom as women are.

The passionate kiss - more than just a seduction move, it's a way of saying "I love you" without words.

The sensual massage - allows you to show your sensual side without being cheesy.

Woman on top - Aside from being a visual treat, it's a massive compliment making a man feel it's her pleasure giving him pleasure.

Sex from behind - It shows that the woman is confident with her body and thus it creates a sense of adventure for a man to enjoy the sexual experience even more. Men find confident women sexy.

Oral sex - It shows how happy a woman is to be really intimate with a man. It's very flattering to see a woman worshiping his most precious part. He'll never forget you.

Watching a woman touch herself - This is also a major turn-on. It is also a great way to find out how a woman wants to be touched without engaging in a clinical conversation.

Talking naughty - It creates and added dimension in a relationship when a woman show's she's comfortable enough to let go of her inhibitions. It shows a sense of trust that she's even prepared to risk embarrassment so that he can open up as well.

Cuddling after sex - If the relationship is based on love, it reassures both parties that what they have is beyond physical. It's good to savour the feeling and he can relax and forget the day's stress. It is very intimate and the hugs show how strong the relationship is.

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