relationships and the bedroom

Do you want to spice up your relationship? You can easily learn the art of dirty talking. Erotic words when tactfully used can help you to enlighten your relationship. You would see the difference in your partner when you would whisper these naughty dirty talks into his ears. Here are some easy tips on talking dirty with your partner.

The one thing you should be aware of is that most men love to hear the women in their life talk dirty to him. You can be very creative in your approach but if you do not follow what your man is looking for then that would not be of any use. So you should take the first step of getting to know what your partner wants.

Playing with toys while having sex and talking dirty has always proved out to be a good spicing factor in any relationship. You may want to try out all different locations for initiating such talks. Other thing that can be tried is role playing. Example of role playing is slave and master, nurse and patient or anything what you can think of.

Next easy tip of talking dirty is talking in a new language which your partner may not understand. In dirty talking what really matters is your accent of voice and how you express it, what you say does not really matter. So even if you say things which your partner may not understand would trigger it if you say things with an art. Dirty talking is a creative art.

You would be amazed to see your partner’s reaction when you start talking him dirty in entirely new language. At first he may laugh on it but slowly he would be amazed with this new thing. You can try out listening to some foreign language tapes to learn some sexy words to be said while talking dirty.

Turn him on and his desire of having sex with you would reach real heights. Your sultry tone is the key to your skills of dirty talking. It acts like a trigger button to anybody. You should always try out new things so that your partner is always excited whenever he is with you.

by: Chris J Roberts

Labels: couples, dating, make love, relationships, sex, talk dirty

Everyone wants to have great, hot, steamy sex every time but the reality is that sex in a long term relationship can get a bit stale. Better lovemaking becomes the goal of many couples in this situation who frantically look for new things to try but end up making some bad lovemaking mistakes that actually makes their experience less than what it was before!

In the interests of better love making everywhere here are some of the most common mistakes that lovers tend to making in their quest for better sex.

1. Being Too Scared/Embarrassed To Talk About New Things
This is all too common and really shouldn’t be as the person we are making love to should be the person we can communicate with about these things best! Sometimes we may be worried about what they may think however but for the most part your partner will crave new things too so go ahead and ask! It does not need to be crude or kinky but there are thousands of ways to add excitement and passion to your lovemaking that you can explore only if you talk and become comfortable with it!

2. Convincing Them To Have Sex
Oh boy, men mainly make this mistake, but sometime women too! If your lover is not in the mood for sex as they are too tired or distracted then trying to talk them into it is not going to work. Instead you have to raise their arousal levels slowly because when the body becomes sexually interested it releases adrenaline into the system giving energy to make love.

Ladies - If your man seems disinterested in sex but you need some love don’t just expect a man to jump at the chance if they really are tired. Instead pay some attention to his manhood by fellatio or by hand. Men are also visual creatures so wearing something sexy or nothing at all will help! An interesting point is that a man’s testosterone levels are highest at 9-10 AM during the day so this is the best time to get him turned on.

Men - Women are very different from us, do not rush in to the obvious sexual areas to turn them on, leave the breasts and crotch alone and concentrate on looking into her eyes, kissing her neck lightly and stroking area near the obvious sexual ones gently. Go slow and when they react positively move to kissing the mouth and so on.

3. Rushing Foreplay To Get To Intercourse
Again many people look at men as the main offenders here but sometimes women do the same and both end up missing out on something amazing. Did you know that lot’s of foreplay actually adds to the intensity of an orgasm for both men AND women?
The more you kiss, touch, caress and so forth before the act of intercourse the more aroused we become and more feel good chemicals in our body are produced or build up for the climax. This means that it is ALWAYS a good idea to just slow it down a little and enjoy playing some games with each other and pleasuring them without intercourse for as long as you can before you just have to move on!

4. Getting Sex Toys Or Porn For Your Lovemaking
There is a time and a place for these things but sometimes we tend to rush into these things to soon when we hit a rough patch sexually and it backfires.
Why? Because you do not your lover to end up looking more forward to the plastic toy or watching the porn than actually finding pleasure in each others bodies! Before you include any of these things you need to know how to please your partner in all ways before introducing something else … use these things as spice and variety not as a central part of your lovemaking.

5. Trying To Climax Your Woman From Just Intercourse
Ok Guys and girls listen up. Men, you might feel less of a man if you can not satisfy your girl from intercourse but the reality is that this is not always going to happen and it is not your fault! Some women can not achieve orgasm through intercourse even and those that can sometimes have difficulty depending on a range of factors including the time of the month, hormone levels, mood and so on.
Girls, by the same token do not put pressure on men to make you orgasm from intercourse as there are many other ways to climax if you let your man try some things!
One of the best ways to do this is by mastering the art of cunnilingus (going down on your women). If done right all pressure is off you on the lovemaking because you can make her climax with just your mouth and tongue.

6. Trying For Simultaneous Orgasms
This is seriously overrated, instead of being some mystical moment of combined pleasure where you come as one it ends up being a labor of timing and holding off and stuffing around and when it does happen … that connection is not actually there.
Instead you should focus completely on satisfying the woman’s needs first because women take a lot longer and are harder to climax than a man most of the time. Once you both learn to give totally to the other in lovemaking it becomes even more intense as the connection comes from being able to give such an experience and take it in with all your senses.

That’s the secret.

7. Do What Works Best … Every time
A little sarcasm there … sorry! While you might understand you need to break out of a routine for better lovemaking some people are afraid to vary too much thinking if it ain’t broke why fix it? The reason it ‘wear and tear’ to take the machine metaphor a step further, while it may not break or fail a boring sex life even if it is still enjoyable can have dire effects on your relationship especially if you also make mistake number one.

Instead be open to change a bit at a time, no need to try new things all the time every time but without spice and variety and excitement sex loses that spark that brings couples together so closely at the beginning of a relationship.

So what is the secret to better lovemaking? The answer is having enough knowledge, tips and ideas to spice up your sex long into the future because the only way to recreate the excitement and enthusiasm that we once had is to make it new again in small ways every time.

By: James Fargo

Labels: kiss, make love, orgasm, relationship, sex, touch

Whether you’ve been married a year or a decade, you’ve probably discovered that sex can go stale, no matter how much you love your partner. Keeping sex hot in a monogamous relationship is a challenge—but can you think of a better one to tackle?
As any sex therapist will tell you, there really are differences between men and women when it comes to sex. As long as a man is still in good health, he generally needs little priming to get ready for sex. While that doesn’t mean he won’t enjoy foreplay, just the thought of making love is enough to make him ready.

Women need more. They generally express the need to know that sex means more than just a physical release. Yes, physical release is good for women, but for women orgasm comes more easily and may even feel better if sex has some emotional meaning.

Sometimes men really don’t seem to understand how to make sex meaningful to their wife. Because a man sees the act of sex as an expression of love, he may not get what he needs to do to create trust and intimacy.

That is where the art of seduction comes in. To seduce someone means to entice them, to make the idea of sex very appealing. Seduction requires charm. You need to be clever, to make yourself not only attractive to your wife, but to attract her to you as well.

One way to seduce your wife is to let her know how much you love her. And I don’t just mean her chest or tush. I mean all of her. Tell her how much you love her face, her hands, the curve of her calf. Tell her you love her kindness and her laugh. Notice the things that made you first fall in love with her, and tell her that you still notice.

Another way to seduce her is to add some romance to your day. This is true most especially on a day that you are feeling in the mood for sex. You needn’t make a big gesture or spend a lot of money. Leave a little note someplace only she will see it (her makeup drawer, on top of her handbag). Or pour her a glass of wine or sparkling water and bring her a plate of cheese and fruit when she comes home at the end of the day.

The third important thing to remember if you want to seduce your wife is to start making love by touching her hands, arms, face, neck, and back before you move onto her more erotic areas. Most women need to be warmed up a bit before they like being touched in an intimate way. Touching and kissing your wife tenderly will show that you love and respect this about her.

These things may be small, but they are very important. And you can’t just do them once and expect her to be enchanted with you forever. You need to repeat, repeat, repeat. But not the exact same thing! Following a formula will just seem forced. You need to seduce your wife with love, from the heart.

Just because you’ve been together awhile doesn’t mean you should give up on doing all the things lovers do. You can get, and keep, your wife’s interest in sex if you know how to show her that you still love her and that sex means something to you, too.

by STEPHANIE BUEHLER

Labels: make love, seduce, sex, wife, woman