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Most sex experts believed that the greatest killer of sexual intimacy for a couple was the lack of excitement or the risk of sex becoming all too familiar. Self-pleasuring can be even more gratifying with the use of sex toys.

In Western society over the course of the last 50 years the view of sex has changed. It is fair to say that the Western world is much more liberal in their views of sex. Love-making is openly talked about subject and has led to women being more enlightened about their sexual being.

A good example of this is that 20 years ago only the minority of women would of known where to locate their clitoris, now even the majority of Western men can locate a women's clitoris and understand how to bring a woman to orgasm. With a sex toy, you can easily build a bridge toward fun sexual intimacy.

Introducing any outside element into sexual relations can be challenging. The easiest prep tool to use in order to ease into sex toys, are lotions or oils. What you are doing here is simply introducing a third element into your intimate relations, and you're starting with something simple. Once erotic oils and lotions are used, you've opened the door for other intimacy tools to be added in the future.

Sex Toys

The reason toys are beneficial is they promote communication between the couple. They also provide a sense of adventure, and the thrill of trying something new and unfamiliar in the bedroom. When used properly, toys can promote the growth and understanding of each others intimate needs.

Introducing sex toys into a relationship can take both pleasure and intimacy to the next level and then some. In addition, the element of "fun" is brought into the picture, and being in a fun, playful relationship is something few couples truly achieve due to poor communication. With a sex toy, you can easily build a bridge toward fun sexual intimacy.

When it comes to sex toys, your imagination is your best guide. Talk about your fantasies and see how you might be able to make them come true. And do a little online voyeurism, who knows where that will lead when you're done shopping?

Silicone is the ideal choice if you are concerned about allergies or reacting to sex toys in a different way. Technology has moved on now and you can also get dildos that feel very realistic (like cyberskin dildos but cleaner and safer).

When asked about their thoughts on sex toys, most sex experts said that they recommend that all couples, regardless of sexual orientation, should have a least one sex toy in their drawer as these little wonders enable both partners to feel sexually fulfilled and to reach climax as well as add a little spice to the bedroom.

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One of the most interesting things about giving women the kind of mind blowing orgasms that are guaranteed to have her wanting you more or more is in the fact that the real secret to giving her those kinds of experiences is in sexual foreplay.

What you may not know that sexual foreplay when done correctly starts way before she might even be beginning to think about sex.

In this article, you will learn 3 sexual foreplay techniques to use on a woman that will help you give her the most amazing mind blowing orgasms that she has ever experienced.

Sexual Foreplay Technique #1 - Turning her on when out in Public

Turning a woman on in public is both easy and effective for the same reasons which are it is unexpected and highly romantic.

It also lets the woman that you are with know that you find her attractive and the kind of woman that you want to be seen with.

Some things that you might want to consider doing with her in public are kissing or touching her in a provocative way.

Once you realize and remember that sexual foreplay starts long before sex you will find a variety of different ways in which you can turn her on.

Another great one to do in public is playing footsies underneath the table with her.

Sexual Foreplay Technique #2 - Creating the Right Kind of Mood or Ambience

Once the two of you are at your place you want to make sure that the environment that you will have her in will allow her to relax and at the same time become highly aroused.

Turning down the lights, lighting some candles and playing some soft and soothing music in the background is one of the best ways of creating the kind of atmosphere that will allow her to physically and mentally be ready for the sexual experience.

Sexual Foreplay Technique #3 Sensual Massage

Hands down giving a woman a sensual massage is the most effective foreplay technique that you can use especially if you are planning on ending the night by giving her the most intense and mind blowing orgasm that you can think of.

In terms of preparing a woman for sex, nothing is as good as giving her a sensual massage. One tip that you are going to want to consider when giving a woman a sensual massage is using a massage oil that has pleasant fragrance to it and at the same time warms her skin her as well.

Since the two of you are still in the sexual foreplay phase and not at the sexual intercourse one yet, start off by rubbing her shoulders and necks then moving your way down to her back and legs.

From this point you are going to want her to roll over and if you truly do have the magic touch she is going to be wet in anticipation of what is going to come next.

However, while she might be ready for more your goal during sexual foreplay is to get her as highly aroused as possible which means continue to give her a massage and then at the end move to her more sexual parts such as her breast, vagina, and clitoris.

Once, you find yourself at the point where you are ready to stimulate her clitoris and move on to more sexual intercourse type activities apply G Female Stimulating Gel underneath the hood of her clitoris and gently massage it in.

At this point, if you did the 3 sexual foreplay techniques above correctly and effectively it will be only a matter of moments that the woman that you are with has the kind of mind blowing orgasms that make all that time you spent on sexual foreplay worthwhile.

by Trey Osborne
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When a man is stimulated sexually by a partner he finds it difficult to avoid becoming aroused. Similarly, if a woman's response to penile thrusting (or any other physical stimulation technique) was automatic then women would presumably be unable to avoid becoming aroused whatever their conscious desires. The truth is that women have to learn how to orgasm.

"I only ever orgasm with a partner through oral sex and only if he's really good at it. Lots of my girlfriends claim they come during intercourse but to be honest, I don't believe them. I'm sexually educated and have a high, healthy libido and if I don't have vaginal orgasms, I can't see why they would." (p102 Hot Sex 1998)

If only we could all apply such good common sense to life! We have very few channels for sharing our sexual experiences. Sometimes we assume that others must experience real life quite differently to ourselves even though there is no logical reason why they should. So don't take too much notice of what other people say because bluffers, fakers and sex surveys do not provide reliable sex information.

"Read all the sex surveys you want but you still won't really know what other people do in bed because what people say and what people do are two totally different things." (p275 Hot Sex 1998)

The sexual fantasy view of female sexuality

When I have tried to talk to others about sex (not as a teenager but as a mature woman), I have been shocked by how defensive people can be. I accept that there are women who claim to have easy orgasmic sex from day one and I am very happy for them. But this is not the case for all women.

Don't get me wrong - I would love to believe that couples can enjoy the mutual and easy sexual pleasure portrayed in porn movies and erotic novels. It's just that, for me, reality never matched up and I think it is more useful to work with reality rather than hanker after some impossible-to-achieve fantasy. Sexual ego is harmful if it prevents us from keeping an open mind and being willing to learn from our real-life sexual experiences.

Personally, I have never found the so-called 'G-spot' nor have I experienced multiple orgasms. There are plenty of jokes about nymphomaniacs but I have never met a woman with this condition in real life. Whether these aspects of female sexuality are myths or simply rare occurrences, they undermine any attempt to generalise about the average woman's experience of sex.

My partner joked that he will most likely to die of old age before he gets around to trying all the different suggestions on the web for locating a woman's G-spot! The G-spot may be amazing but if it is so obscure then just how useful is it to the average couple? This search for the holy grail is yet another indication of how many women struggle with orgasm during sex.

As soon as I experienced a lack of sexual arousal during sex with a partner, I suspected that descriptions of women's ability to orgasm easily during sex must be fictitious. So why have women not stood up and said: "But that's ridiculous. My body and brain just do not react like that!"

One obvious reason is personal embarrassment. Another is that, although as heterosexual women our physical responses must be similar, our emotional interpretation of our sexual experiences can be quite different depending on our attitude and our expectations.

Finally we are all, often quite subconsciously, guilty of becoming defensive of our sexual fantasies and sexual egos. Emotionally we want to believe the fantasy because we cannot accept the facts even when they are laid out before us. The concept of 'that's just the way it is - take it or leave it' does not appeal.

Unfortunately, sex information for women is often misleading and advice is often vague because, for the most part, sex experts deal with sexual dysfunction and young people's ignorance of the basic sexual facts. In fact, there is no intentional campaign to disseminate misinformation but simply a lack of understanding in an intensely personal area of our lives.

By Jane Thomas
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I looked at her like she was crazy.

About a month ago, I was engaged in a deep conversation with a female "friend" of mine. The topic was what "turns on" women. My point was a guy should focus on pleasing a woman. She on the other hand, had the viewpoint that guys should be ONLY concerned with eliminating the behaviors which can "turn-off" a woman.

Well after arguing for half an hour, I realized she had some valid points. In fact, I came to the conclusion that all guys can learn a lot about what turns off women. If you can avoid them, you'll take that crucial first step towards pleasing a woman. And here are the 5 most common sexual things which turn off women.

1- Bad hygiene

Seriously, women hate when guys smell or have poor hygiene. Before you even think about hopping in the sack, you should make sure you've showered and don't smell like you've run a marathon. In addition, it's important to do the proper maintenance actions like shaving, applying deodorant, cleaning your ears and brushing your teeth.

2- Being a poor kisser

Women love guys who can kiss with passion. The converse is they hate guys who either act too wussy or too aggressive when they kiss. This means if your kissing skills lack a punch, then you'll probably disgust her. If you want to turn her on, it's important to find out how to kiss and work hard at applying this technique.

3- Acting like a wimp

The simple truth about sex is women want to be with men who act like MEN. If you're acting like a wimp in the bedroom, then you're turning her off. Wussy behavior involves asking her if "she's enjoying herself" or being too afraid to try new things.

4- Acting too aggressive

Now being too aggressive is just as bad as acting like a wimp. When you try to push a woman around you'll display disgusting behavior. If she thinks you're only concerned with your own pleasure, then she won't enjoy sex with you. While women want men who act confidently, you should NEVER get too aggressive with a woman.

5- Rushing things

Women love the entire process of sex. To them, the build up and foreplay is as just as important as the main act. So if you rush through things, you'll probably turn off your woman. To make a woman enjoy herself, you should take your time and focus on her pleasure.

As I said at the start of the article, there is a lot to be learned about women's sexuality. If you can eliminate (or never display) the 5 behaviors I list in this article, you'll discover that it's easy to please your woman.




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The power of seduction is perhaps one of woman's strongest instincts. This drive probably goes back to ancient times when a woman seduced a man to gain protection and food in order to survive. Over the centuries this drive has evolved to become more subtle, but certainly not weaker. We see today even pre-school girls "seducing" their fathers to get what they want. Girls learn at an early age that men can be manipulated with nothing more than a little female attention.

Of course, the attention that single women use translates to sexuality. But it doesn't even take a promise of sex - merely the hint or suggestion of sex is enough to manipulate or seduce a man into doing what a woman wants him to do. As a matter of fact, some women grow up finding so much success using their "charms" that seduction becomes second nature to them. Most often, they are not even aware that they are doing it. Usually these women grew up around men who were very susceptible to female attention, so that from an early age these women learned how to get what they wanted. So, if money is important to a man because with it he can get what he wants, in the same way, the power of seduction is important to a single woman because with it she too can get things she wants.

What all this means to you, the man trying to understand single women, is that women like to know they have that power of seduction. Single women are very stimulated by an opportunity to affirm that power. They love a chase. They love a man who is a "catch" - someone who is hard to get. A man who makes himself easy denies a woman her desire to prove her powers of seduction. She will be bored with this man and go after one who stimulates her desire for a challenge. This is something that every man must remember when dealing with single women.

P.S. - This article is an excerpt from "A Man's Guide to Women."

Make Her Crave Sex The Easy Way
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