relationships and the bedroom: female

Undoubtedly, a woman's breasts rank up high on the erogenous zones list. Breasts have many nerve endings that it doesn't really require a lot of effort to stimulate a woman via her breasts or nipples. However, simple stimulation is not what we're after, right? You want her to be really sensually turned on when you start paying attention to her breasts.

Think of it this way: be the man who's so good at stimulating her via her breasts that she feels like she's reaching a climax.

How to Treat Her Breasts Properly

When it comes to breast or nipple fondling, women have two major complaints. The first is that men manhandle their breasts, and two, men don't give their breasts enough attention! Just like passionate kissing, it seems that most men pay attention to breasts during lovemaking only for a few short minutes. (Yes, the required few minutes of foreplay prior intercourse.)

Let's address the first thing first. I know you're in the throes of passion but really, there's no reason to be rough with her breasts. How would you like it if we were rough on your manhood? So be gentle and don't grab and squeeze. In fact, the gentler you are, the more turned on we women get!

Secondly, women's nipples can be a real source of erotic sexuality so it's a shame not to stimulate us longer via our nipples. Think of it this way: the more attention our breasts receive, the higher the chances of us reaching an orgasm, which of course earns major bonus sex points for you!

How to Give Her a Breast Massage

So let's get down to the nitty-gritty, how can you best lavish attention on your woman's breasts tonight?

First, why not give her a breast massage? Ask your partner to sit naked in front of you. (You can also have her lie down with her head on your lap.) Reach forward, embrace her, and then start cupping her breasts. Stroke her breasts slowly with circular movements. (Movement should be counterclockwise on the right breast, and clockwise on the left breast.) Do this for at least 35 times.

Naughty tip: While giving her a breast massage, kiss and nibble the back of her neck and her shoulders.

Now, do the `cup and hold'. Gently cup her breasts and simply cover them with your hands. The heat from your palms will soon transcend to her breast and into her body.

The techniques are all meant to relax your lover's mind while sexually stimulating her at the same time. But after the breast massage, it's time to really stimulate her! Read on to see what pleasure techniques you can use on her tonight.

6 Ways to Lavish Attention on Her Breast Tonight

One: During foreplay, feel free to fondle her breasts. (Again, fondle, not manhandle.) Draw lazy circles around her breasts and when her nipples are erect, open your hands and with your palms lying flat on her nipples, gently draw open circles. Be sure that your palms are `barely touching' her nipples. This `barely there' feeling is guaranteed to sexually stimulate your woman!

Two: Sniff her nipples. Yes, sniff. Bring your nose close to her erect nipple and start to inhale her scent.

Three: Butterfly kiss her nipples. This means you position your eyes till they're but a breath away from her nipples and then flutter them open and close. The feel of your eyelids brushing faintly, yet frantically against her nipples is guaranteed to drive her crazy!

Four: Lick the sides of her breasts with long, wet licks. Place your tongue flat on her chest or underneath her breast and from there lick till you reach the very top of her nipple 9apply a bit of pressure). Once at the top, slide your tongue so that her erect nipple is at the very end of your tongue... now flick your tongue over her nipple.

Five: Be like a puppy and apply short, wet and frantic licks on her erect nipple.

Six: Suck your woman's breasts. Kiss her nipple and then slowly lower your mouth so that it engulfs her whole breast or as much as you can take in). Now slowly pull your mouth upwards, sucking ever so gently as you pull up. A variation of this is to gently apply a bit of teeth against her breast as you pull up.

There you have it. Six wonderful ways to sexually arouse your woman via her breasts and nipples. Try one or all of the above tips and I guarantee, she'll be VERY grateful to you.

by Gabrielle Moore

Labels: female, marriage, orgasm, relationships, sexuality, Stimulation

By Emily Winslow

Did you know that as much as 46% of women are unhappy with their sex life? Much of this is due to sexual frustration and low female sex drive. There are many causes for low female sex drive and part of that is due to the fact that the female sex drive is more sensitive to environmental, physical, and psychological influences than men.

So how do you increase a female's sex drive? The answer is by working with some of the major causes that lower female sexual desire. Let's take a look.

1. Stress and Low Female Sex Drive

As mentioned above stress has a great impact on the female drive. When your woman is thinking about work, kids, or finances her mind is overwhelmed with anxiety that sex is the farthest thing on her mind. However, this is important to increasing the female sex drive.

It is said that a woman must first convince herself to want sex before she is ready for it. Yes, this is true. Recall those times when sex was painful for her? This is because when the brain receives arousal signals it prepares her body for sex.

Her vaginal fluids and the depth of the vagina increase in order to accommodate penetration. When a woman is not in the mood, all those bodily changes that require her to enjoy sex don't occur thus she experiences pain and discomfort during sex. This creates a negative experience about sex and could cause her to resent it.

Therefore, the key for better sex first starts in the mind. Help your woman relax and de-stress so that she is more open to intimacy and sexual advances. Have her take on activities to de-stress like yoga or work to make her day a little easier by giving her a hand with household chores. Although this may sound simple, a huge cause for low female sex drive is psychological ones such as stress. Combating stress is the first step to re-igniting her sexual spark.

2. Female Sex Drive Enhancers

Physical influences such as low genital blood flow are one of the major causes for low sex drive and performance in men
and women. This discovery prompted many developments in sexual enhancement products. Soon products like Viagra and Enzyte were available for men to increase genital blood flow, sexual performance, and arousal. But what about women? Women too suffer from these causes and want to enhance their sex life as well.

Now, new female sex drive enhancers work to increase female arousal and ability to orgasm by stimulating clitoral blood flow. How do they work? These libido enhancers use L-Arginine, a natural amino acid which works to increase clitoral blood flow and sensitivity. This promotes sexual arousal in women and her ability to orgasm.

L-arginine cream instantly works to increase clitoral blood blow and is applied right before sex. Within a minute you will feel a tingly sensation and be highly aroused. As clitoral blood flow increase so does your ability to orgasm. Consider libido enhancers such as Femelle to increase your female sex drive.

3. Female Sex Drive Mood Lifters

Because women are so sensitive to their environment, taking the time to set the mood can really help to turn her on. Play romantic or relaxing music at home, light some candles, turn off your cell phones and eliminate distractions. Create an environment of intimacy. This could be as simple as buying satin sheets so that the bed looks more like a place for sex and not for sleep.

A great technique for setting the mood is giving her a massage. You don't have to be an expert even a slight rub down works wonders to stimulate blood flow in all the right areas!

Finally, remember increasing the female sex drive involves nurturing psychological, physical, and environmental factors. A woman wants sex but her greatest problem is convincing herself. You can do this by de-stressing her mind or with libido enhancers which create sensations in her body that she can't ignore!