relationships and the bedroom

Everybody has a special little fantasy (or ten) that they would love to try out in the bedroom. For women, expressing their fantasies is often just a matter of getting over their shyness. But for men, getting what you want in the bedroom is often complicated by concerns about your wife or girlfriend's reaction. Can you even ask for what you want without alienating her?

Generally, yes. If you go about it the right way, you can often have your sexiest fantasies fulfilled. The best way to do it? Be slow and careful, and follow some of the tips below.

Give her warning. Have something you always wanted to try? The worst thing you can do is spring it on her at the spur of the moment. Especially if it involves you doing something to her, you've always got to ask first, or risk never getting to try it again.

Gauge the request. When to bring up one of your fantasies has a lot to do with, well, what you want. If what you want is especially kinky, strange, or, uh, invasive, then it's best to talk about it beforehand-- and probably with your clothes on. (Maybe after a bottle of wine or three?) But if what you want is something small that you've simply never tried before (like "can I lightly slap your butt?") you can generally ask during the deed.

Plant the seed. Some men aren't afraid to say just what they want-- they may even advertise it on their internet dating profiles! But others are too nervous to come right out and tell their girl about their dirtiest fantasies. In that case, it's a good idea to start small. Plant the idea of your fantasy in her head; perhaps tell her you had a dream about it or had a friend who tried it. This will get her thinking about it, and give you a good idea of how she might react if you were to ask.

Offer her control. If your bedroom request is something that makes your girl uncomfortable, offer her control of the situation. Make sure she knows she can stop at any time, and if there's a wardrobe or other accessories involved, give her control over choice. It will help her to feel a lot more comfortable with the situation in general. And if she's comfortable, she'll have a lot more fun.

Start with hers. Are you one of those guys who tends to think men are more sexual than women? Then you might be surprised at the things your partner fantasizes about. If you want to see you fantasies fulfilled, you may just want to start off with hers. Ply her with a few glasses of wine and get her to reveal to you what turns her on. After you've given her what she wants, you'll be in a much better position to get what you want.

Don't press too hard. Sometimes the answer to your sexual requests is simply "no." Other times, your girl might be reluctant or a little turned-off by the idea of what you want. Give her time. If you press her too hard for what you want, chances are you will never get it. Let her get comfortable with the idea before you bring it up again. And if she's still reluctant, give her more time. Getting what you want in the bedroom is something you should go about gently. Pressing her too hard is the quickest way to get a real --and very final-- "heck no."

With some women, there's little chance of you seeing your wilder or kinkier fantasies fulfilled. But if your partner is open-minded and easy-going, there's a good chance you can get what you want in the bedroom. All you need to do is learn to ask the right questions in the right way. Good luck, and have fun!

By: Shawn Wilson

Labels: attract women, bedroom, fantasies, men, sex

Every woman knows if the sex goes sour you have a good chance of the relationship going with it. In all honesty most women know the relationship is nearing the end when your partner is no longer happy in bed. Here's a few definitive ways you can keep your man happy in bed.

Sure some couples go through a rough time when the sex just isn’t as exciting or maybe it’s downright dull. If you want to keep your man then you have to spice up your sex life again.

Men start to stray when the sex begins boring or non existent so if you don’t want that to happen then you have to learn how to keep your man happy in bed. Take a few minutes and re-evaluate your sex life and how you can keep your partner happy when he is with you.

Do you have sex once a week or as often as possible? If you’re only having sex once every week asks yourself why? If you cannot come up with a real good reason then you need to make time or put more effort into your sex life. This is not to say the lack of sex in your relationship is your fault. There are three ways to keep you man happy in bed.

The first is to follow his lead just like dancing, only horizontal.
- If he is vocal then you be vocal.
- If he is daring and always willing to try new things then you be willing to try new things.
- If he likes to mix things up then mix them up!

The above listed ways will keep your man happy in bed assuming that you are performing at you best.

If you find that you only own one silky see through sexy lingerie then you need to buy more, men enjoy the thrill of what’s underneath even though they know what’s underneath! If you just lie there and let him do all the work, then you need to become wiser and more active in bed. It is a fact that men enjoy being in control but they also enjoy being controlled.

Boost their ego with a little dirty talk, if you lay their like a dead fish flopping around sooner or later he’s going to be turned off by this. Men need to know they are pleasuring you so it’s important to not only show them but to tell them as well.

These three simple often over looked things will indeed keep your man happy in bed and keep him from looking for a new bed!

By: Chris Roberts
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Labels: bedroom, happy, men, relationship, sex, tips

To be more correct, single women don't want sex - they want good sex and romance. Women's desires are much greater than most men realize. But, unlike men, who are just after sex, single women are looking for great sexual experiences. Single women are very discriminating and choosy in picking sexual partners.

They are only interested in having a sexual encounter with a partner that:
Sexually arouses them.

Promises, by his manner or image or personality, to be "good in bed."
Single women want exciting, provocative, imaginative partners who will lead them through great sexual experiences. Though their sexual desire may be very high, they will pass up just any sexual encounter waiting to find the one that promises to be special.

The fact that single women are choosy about who they go to bed with and have sex with is a dilemma for men, but there is one good aspect to this trait. Single women, once they do choose, tend to stay with him, and are reluctant to change partners. Single women know that good sex is hard to find, so once they have it, they would rather hang on to that relationship than go back out into the market place. Keep in mind this propensity to stay in a relationship because sex exists only as long as the sex is good.

The last thought in this section is something that we have come to realize is a cardinal rule to be used in reading women. That is: SINGLE WOMEN HAVE SEX WITH MEN WHO THEY WANT TO HAVE SEX WITH. At first, this phrase may sound too simple and obvious to have any wisdom to it, but let us expand on it.

The meaning behind it is, that if a woman decides that she would like to sleep with someone, she will pursue that person relentlessly. And on the other hand, if a woman has decided that she is not interested in sleeping with someone, no amount of pursuit or persuasion is going to move her. Many men have wasted their precious time and energy by ignoring this reality.

P.S. - This article is an excerpt from "A Man's Guide to Women."

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Labels: bedroom, romance, sex, singles, women

Men are just as sensitive in the bedroom as women are.

The passionate kiss - more than just a seduction move, it's a way of saying "I love you" without words.

The sensual massage - allows you to show your sensual side without being cheesy.

Woman on top - Aside from being a visual treat, it's a massive compliment making a man feel it's her pleasure giving him pleasure.

Sex from behind - It shows that the woman is confident with her body and thus it creates a sense of adventure for a man to enjoy the sexual experience even more. Men find confident women sexy.

Oral sex - It shows how happy a woman is to be really intimate with a man. It's very flattering to see a woman worshiping his most precious part. He'll never forget you.

Watching a woman touch herself - This is also a major turn-on. It is also a great way to find out how a woman wants to be touched without engaging in a clinical conversation.

Talking naughty - It creates and added dimension in a relationship when a woman show's she's comfortable enough to let go of her inhibitions. It shows a sense of trust that she's even prepared to risk embarrassment so that he can open up as well.

Cuddling after sex - If the relationship is based on love, it reassures both parties that what they have is beyond physical. It's good to savour the feeling and he can relax and forget the day's stress. It is very intimate and the hugs show how strong the relationship is.

Labels: bedroom, couple, dating, relationship