relationships and the bedroom: gifts

If you’re in a sexual relationship, there’s probably more on your mind than chocolate and flowers when it comes to Valentine’s Day. No doubt, you’re thinking about putting the moves on your sweetheart to get some hot sex going in the bedroom.

If you want to ensure you have sex that sizzles, here are 6 tips to make it happen.

1. Buy a private “love gift.” Give it to your partner when you get to the bedroom. It can be a toy, a flavored lubricant, a fragrant candle, or a bottle of champagne to drink alone.
2. Be seductive. Just because you both know where the evening is leading doesn’t mean you should head straight to the bedroom. Give your partner compliments. Flirt. Whisper what you want to do to their body in their ear over dinner.
3. As soon as you’re together, start being affectionate. Don’t wait until minutes before you want to have sex. And don’t smother your partner, either. Just be genuinely warm and loving toward your partner. This day is all about romance.
4. Try tender sex. If you usually are aggressive, try being sweet. Show your partner another side of yourself. Reveal how sexy you are when you slow down to a simmer. Valentine’s Day is all about expressing the gentler side.
5. Try aggressive sex. If you are usually passive in bed, trying initiating sex. Give your partner a treat and show how much you care all at the same time. After all, sometimes what’s hot is ignoring convention. Instead of sweet Valentine sex, try it tough.
6. Have a little “after treat.” When your lovemaking is over, let your partner know you appreciate this private gift you’ve enjoyed together. Have a Valentine’s card hidden beneath the pillow to give to your lover or an extra chocolate in your nightstand drawer.

Valentine’s Day is about love, yes, but it’s also about passionate sex. The symbols of the holiday—flowers, perfume, chocolate, and gems—are seductive. Let yourself be carried away.

By: Dr. Stephanie Buehler

Labels: date, gifts, hot, love, relationship, sex, valentine's

by REBECCA DEOS

With everyone tightening their belts this year, there is no reason that Valentine’s Day needs to suffer. Quite to the contrary, building an evening of romance on a limited budget is a great exercise to show that love romance and intimacy is not tied to your wallet or pocketbook. It’s simply about the two of you spending time together, sharing and having fun.

With everyone’s lives being extremely stressful this year, a great theme for Valentine’s Day is “Teamwork!” Use Valentine’s Day as a reminder of the basics: Whatever situation the economy has put you in, you are a team and can get through it together.

Here are a few tips to begin thinking about for this Valentine’s Day.
Lower your expectations.Like many holidays, we seem to build expectations of what would constitute the perfect Valentine’s Day. Anything short of that perfect vision then leaves you feeling unsatisfied. There are many things out of your control, understand that real life will more than likely interfere at some point.
Plan with your partner. We all like surprises and to see our partner make the effort to plan something they think we would enjoy. With life being extremely stressful this year, make it a team building exercise and plan it together.
Think communication. Last month, we found a store than sells bulk candy, including some of the cheap penny candies we haven’t seen since we were kids. We filled the bag, and plan on eating it on Valentine’s Day, talking about the childhood memories the candy brings back. Similarly, look through childhood pictures, yearbooks or mementos and the memories associated with it. You’ll be surprised at how fulfilling it can be, and how much you can still learn about your partner.
Eating Out. Going out to dinner is a Valentine’s Day tradition for many. If it’s a tradition you would like to keep, begin searching your local newspaper now for Valentine’s Day specials. Also search online for coupons and specials. It doesn’t sound sexy or romantic, but also doesn’t leave you with regret the next day for breaking your budget. Planning it ahead gives you the opportunity to scout the best deals plan your budget and not be stressed about it on Valentine’s Day.
Eating In If you are planning on staying in, plan a meal you can cook together. A variety of small finger foods is great, since you can cook, nibble and talk all at the same time.
No TV, no movies TV and movies allow you to do one thing, watch. Think interaction instead. Ask friends if you can borrow a few board games that you don’t currently own for the evening, so that you have a variety of different to choose from.
Mentally prepare With the stresses of daily life, it becomes hard to suddenly unwind and relax. Everyone needs downtime from the business end of life to recharge their batteries. Begin reminding yourself now that you are allowed to take time off from the worries of daily life and enjoy each other’s company.
Pick an evening or two before Valentine’s Day to spend some time together. It’s only natural that sitting down and spending time together wil lead to discussions of work, finance and the kids. Planning on time beforehand allows you to purge yourself of those issues, and make Valentine’s Day about the two of you.