Turning her on
The way in which you turn her on can take on several different approaches. Taking things slowly using both physical and emotional techniques will give her a huge rush. Below is a summary of the key elements of how to turn a woman on according to Dr Pam Spurr, author of Fabulous Foreplay.
1. The emotional factor.
Interestingly, women don't always see extended foreplay as purely tangible. Some women are indeed capable of physical arousal quickly, similar to men. However, for a slow build up, starting with an emotional approach and working your way into physical arousal is the best way for you to show her you're a real Italian stallion. Gaze deeply into her eyes when you first see her, it indicates the beginning of your extended foreplay, and is one enormous turn on. If you are dating someone you have met through an online dating site, try sending a provocative email to begin your extended foreplay, by the time you see her, she will already be wanting.
2. Sexual discovery.
Trends change all the time when it comes to our taste in music and clothing etc, but when it comes to sex, most of our methods are more than likely exactly the same - Time to expand! Orgasms, as sad as it sounds, don't 'come' quite as easily for long term couples as they once did. Try to concentrate on one particular act of foreplay, and always discuss new acts of foreplay and positions you can both try - sounds more exciting than playing the latest edition of scrabble.
3. The home straight.
Okay, well here is a little secret for the guys when things are nearing the finish line but your lady is only just out of the starting block. To bring yourself (the guys) back from the brink, have your lady press on your perineum and put pressure on your prostate which will help to delay the finish and will allow her to catch up. Guys will find their climax is more like a snail like finish instead of a frenzied last minute bolt of thunder.
4. The holy grail.
Mutual climax will only usually happen when things begin slowly, assume the missionary position, balance your upper body weight on her, then simply motion your pelvis as you have sex, slowly, so your pubic bone gently grinds her clitoral area, making her orgasm. This position helps the guy last until the end as this technique is best when sex is slow giving the guy more control over when he finishes.
5. A closing thought!
When you think you are approaching orgasm, concentrate on breathing out of your mouth, then breathe in through your nose, by practicing this technique during sex, men can also experience a full body climax similar to women.
by Matt Fuller
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