How to tell if your spouse is having an extramarital affair
Your spouse is cheating on you, or at least that is what you think. Maybe you see the signs, or maybe you just have that feeling in the pit of your stomach that your partner is engaged in an extramarital affair. As bad as knowing, for sure, that your spouse is cheating on you would be, it's probably worse not knowing for sure -- there are too many unanswered questions, too many "what ifs", and it's the uncertainty that can wreak havoc in your personal, professional, and family life more than anything else. Here is how you can determine whether your spouse is having an extramarital affair.
Pay attention to their behavior
Behavioral changes are the number one giveaway for men or women who are cheating on their spouses. Even if it doesn't feel like it, you probably know your spouse better than anybody else, and behavioral changes should be relatively easy to spot.
For instance, maybe your spouse has started making changes to their appearance -- they bought a new wardrobe, they've recently purchased a gym membership, or they start talking about getting a cosmetic procedure. Maybe they have become irritable for no reason, they have become critical of your every move, their sexual appetite changed significantly, or maybe they've even started acting more affectionate to you than they have been in the past.
Whatever the case may be, changes to behavior are a common sign that your spouse is engaged in an extramarital affair. However, while there may be signs galore, signs of a spouse having an affair can also be signs of a spouse dealing with stress, getting older, or just a having a bad time in life -- you should get actual proof of an affair before you confront your significant other on your suspicions.
How to get proof of infidelity
These days, there is one common trait amongst cheaters, and this commonality can give you proof that your partner is having an extramarital affair, or it can help to ease your mind that they aren't -- technology. It would be implausible, if not impossible, for cheaters to avoid using today's technologies in their extramarital activities.
Individuals who are cheating frequently use computers with internet connections and cell phones during the course of their infidelity, and if they are -- there's a very good chance that they can be caught.
While your spouse may be able to 'cover their tracks' on their computer, and they can delete incriminating evidence on their cell phone, that doesn't mean that they have removed all traces of their extramarital activity; far from it. Infidelity investigators, specifically those who deal expressly with internet investigations, can locate your spouse's online profiles to see what they have been up to on the internet.
Online investigation services that deal with infidelity and the internet usually offer cell phone forensics services as well, which, these services can help you retrieve data from your spouse's cell phone that they previously deleted. In many cases, if your spouse is having an extramarital affair, they are leaving traces of their activity on their computer or on their cell phone, and an infidelity investigation expert can help you put the pieces together so that you have the proof you need to confront them.
If you have that deep-down feeling that your spouse is having an extramarital affair, get the proof before you confront them. While your gut feeling is a powerful voice, and one that you should absolutely listen to, you should have more than just your suspicions in hand before you accuse your spouse of seeing somebody else. Pay attention to their behavior, and then use today's technology to get proof of their infidelity -- this way, you can avoid a potentially devastating accusation if your suspicions end up being based on feelings rather than facts.
by ROB FERRALL
