relationships and the bedroom

Everyone wants to have great, hot, steamy sex every time but the reality is that sex in a long term relationship can get a bit stale. Better lovemaking becomes the goal of many couples in this situation who frantically look for new things to try but end up making some bad lovemaking mistakes that actually makes their experience less than what it was before!

In the interests of better love making everywhere here are some of the most common mistakes that lovers tend to making in their quest for better sex.

1. Being Too Scared/Embarrassed To Talk About New Things
This is all too common and really shouldn’t be as the person we are making love to should be the person we can communicate with about these things best! Sometimes we may be worried about what they may think however but for the most part your partner will crave new things too so go ahead and ask! It does not need to be crude or kinky but there are thousands of ways to add excitement and passion to your lovemaking that you can explore only if you talk and become comfortable with it!

2. Convincing Them To Have Sex
Oh boy, men mainly make this mistake, but sometime women too! If your lover is not in the mood for sex as they are too tired or distracted then trying to talk them into it is not going to work. Instead you have to raise their arousal levels slowly because when the body becomes sexually interested it releases adrenaline into the system giving energy to make love.

Ladies - If your man seems disinterested in sex but you need some love don’t just expect a man to jump at the chance if they really are tired. Instead pay some attention to his manhood by fellatio or by hand. Men are also visual creatures so wearing something sexy or nothing at all will help! An interesting point is that a man’s testosterone levels are highest at 9-10 AM during the day so this is the best time to get him turned on.

Men - Women are very different from us, do not rush in to the obvious sexual areas to turn them on, leave the breasts and crotch alone and concentrate on looking into her eyes, kissing her neck lightly and stroking area near the obvious sexual ones gently. Go slow and when they react positively move to kissing the mouth and so on.

3. Rushing Foreplay To Get To Intercourse
Again many people look at men as the main offenders here but sometimes women do the same and both end up missing out on something amazing. Did you know that lot’s of foreplay actually adds to the intensity of an orgasm for both men AND women?
The more you kiss, touch, caress and so forth before the act of intercourse the more aroused we become and more feel good chemicals in our body are produced or build up for the climax. This means that it is ALWAYS a good idea to just slow it down a little and enjoy playing some games with each other and pleasuring them without intercourse for as long as you can before you just have to move on!

4. Getting Sex Toys Or Porn For Your Lovemaking
There is a time and a place for these things but sometimes we tend to rush into these things to soon when we hit a rough patch sexually and it backfires.
Why? Because you do not your lover to end up looking more forward to the plastic toy or watching the porn than actually finding pleasure in each others bodies! Before you include any of these things you need to know how to please your partner in all ways before introducing something else … use these things as spice and variety not as a central part of your lovemaking.

5. Trying To Climax Your Woman From Just Intercourse
Ok Guys and girls listen up. Men, you might feel less of a man if you can not satisfy your girl from intercourse but the reality is that this is not always going to happen and it is not your fault! Some women can not achieve orgasm through intercourse even and those that can sometimes have difficulty depending on a range of factors including the time of the month, hormone levels, mood and so on.
Girls, by the same token do not put pressure on men to make you orgasm from intercourse as there are many other ways to climax if you let your man try some things!
One of the best ways to do this is by mastering the art of cunnilingus (going down on your women). If done right all pressure is off you on the lovemaking because you can make her climax with just your mouth and tongue.

6. Trying For Simultaneous Orgasms
This is seriously overrated, instead of being some mystical moment of combined pleasure where you come as one it ends up being a labor of timing and holding off and stuffing around and when it does happen … that connection is not actually there.
Instead you should focus completely on satisfying the woman’s needs first because women take a lot longer and are harder to climax than a man most of the time. Once you both learn to give totally to the other in lovemaking it becomes even more intense as the connection comes from being able to give such an experience and take it in with all your senses.

That’s the secret.

7. Do What Works Best … Every time
A little sarcasm there … sorry! While you might understand you need to break out of a routine for better lovemaking some people are afraid to vary too much thinking if it ain’t broke why fix it? The reason it ‘wear and tear’ to take the machine metaphor a step further, while it may not break or fail a boring sex life even if it is still enjoyable can have dire effects on your relationship especially if you also make mistake number one.

Instead be open to change a bit at a time, no need to try new things all the time every time but without spice and variety and excitement sex loses that spark that brings couples together so closely at the beginning of a relationship.

So what is the secret to better lovemaking? The answer is having enough knowledge, tips and ideas to spice up your sex long into the future because the only way to recreate the excitement and enthusiasm that we once had is to make it new again in small ways every time.

By: James Fargo

Labels: kiss, make love, orgasm, relationship, sex, touch

By Emily Winslow

Did you know that as much as 46% of women are unhappy with their sex life? Much of this is due to sexual frustration and low female sex drive. There are many causes for low female sex drive and part of that is due to the fact that the female sex drive is more sensitive to environmental, physical, and psychological influences than men.

So how do you increase a female's sex drive? The answer is by working with some of the major causes that lower female sexual desire. Let's take a look.

1. Stress and Low Female Sex Drive

As mentioned above stress has a great impact on the female drive. When your woman is thinking about work, kids, or finances her mind is overwhelmed with anxiety that sex is the farthest thing on her mind. However, this is important to increasing the female sex drive.

It is said that a woman must first convince herself to want sex before she is ready for it. Yes, this is true. Recall those times when sex was painful for her? This is because when the brain receives arousal signals it prepares her body for sex.

Her vaginal fluids and the depth of the vagina increase in order to accommodate penetration. When a woman is not in the mood, all those bodily changes that require her to enjoy sex don't occur thus she experiences pain and discomfort during sex. This creates a negative experience about sex and could cause her to resent it.

Therefore, the key for better sex first starts in the mind. Help your woman relax and de-stress so that she is more open to intimacy and sexual advances. Have her take on activities to de-stress like yoga or work to make her day a little easier by giving her a hand with household chores. Although this may sound simple, a huge cause for low female sex drive is psychological ones such as stress. Combating stress is the first step to re-igniting her sexual spark.

2. Female Sex Drive Enhancers

Physical influences such as low genital blood flow are one of the major causes for low sex drive and performance in men
and women. This discovery prompted many developments in sexual enhancement products. Soon products like Viagra and Enzyte were available for men to increase genital blood flow, sexual performance, and arousal. But what about women? Women too suffer from these causes and want to enhance their sex life as well.

Now, new female sex drive enhancers work to increase female arousal and ability to orgasm by stimulating clitoral blood flow. How do they work? These libido enhancers use L-Arginine, a natural amino acid which works to increase clitoral blood flow and sensitivity. This promotes sexual arousal in women and her ability to orgasm.

L-arginine cream instantly works to increase clitoral blood blow and is applied right before sex. Within a minute you will feel a tingly sensation and be highly aroused. As clitoral blood flow increase so does your ability to orgasm. Consider libido enhancers such as Femelle to increase your female sex drive.

3. Female Sex Drive Mood Lifters

Because women are so sensitive to their environment, taking the time to set the mood can really help to turn her on. Play romantic or relaxing music at home, light some candles, turn off your cell phones and eliminate distractions. Create an environment of intimacy. This could be as simple as buying satin sheets so that the bed looks more like a place for sex and not for sleep.

A great technique for setting the mood is giving her a massage. You don't have to be an expert even a slight rub down works wonders to stimulate blood flow in all the right areas!

Finally, remember increasing the female sex drive involves nurturing psychological, physical, and environmental factors. A woman wants sex but her greatest problem is convincing herself. You can do this by de-stressing her mind or with libido enhancers which create sensations in her body that she can't ignore!

Labels: couple, female, libido, massage, orgasm, set the mood, sex, sex drive

Adult lingerie is sexy. It's designed to imitate certain characters or people. Lingerie lets you portray roles by simply wearing attire that creates a special mood or feeling. The only difference is the outfits are designed in an extremely sexy way, showing a lot of skin and further accentuating the impact and heightening the excitement.

Sexy adult lingerie may be fashioned after a schoolgirl outfit. Instead of the usual conservative cut which this outfit comes in, the adult lingerie is designed to have a plunging blouse, overly short skirt and glittered, net, or sheer stockings.

Another example is a maid's outfit. Used as adult lingerie, the blouse also plunges and only panties serve as a garment for the lower part of the body. The skirt is short for added effect.

Other kinds of sexy lingerie, are extremely erotic so that they have cupless bras. These cupless bras are usually a part of a teddy, harness or a suspender. Leather is a commonly used material for them as it exudes both a powerful and sexy aura. For greater effect, they are designed with studs, grommets, lace and/or nailheads. There is nothing like the feel of leather on your skin to create some excitement. A girl wearing leather lingerie has a sexy dangerous look and feel. A leather corset is just plain sexy! Guaranteed to spice up your sex life!

Accessories may be used to complement the whole style of the adult lingerie outfit. Examples of these accessories are whips, masks, hats, armbands, wrist cuffs, chokers, and collar. Most of these props and accessories are also made of leather.

Corsets are especially sexy and are designed to complement the female form. Slimming the woman's waist and accentuating the bosom, creating a fantasy effect that is irresistible. Corsets come in many styles and colors offering a wide variety of options for every woman.

Corsets, Garter Belts, Thongs, G-strings, and Teddies can really set the right mood and keep things exciting! Nothings better than really amping up your sex play with a new fantasy costume!

Make certain you are buying from a reputable company and make certain you have the right fit. Size and fit are very important there are a variety of size charts available to help you figure out the correct size for your body type. Make certain you are buying something that will be comfortable and that will give you that sexy feeling. Spice up your sex life!

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Everybody has a special little fantasy (or ten) that they would love to try out in the bedroom. For women, expressing their fantasies is often just a matter of getting over their shyness. But for men, getting what you want in the bedroom is often complicated by concerns about your wife or girlfriend's reaction. Can you even ask for what you want without alienating her?

Generally, yes. If you go about it the right way, you can often have your sexiest fantasies fulfilled. The best way to do it? Be slow and careful, and follow some of the tips below.

Give her warning. Have something you always wanted to try? The worst thing you can do is spring it on her at the spur of the moment. Especially if it involves you doing something to her, you've always got to ask first, or risk never getting to try it again.

Gauge the request. When to bring up one of your fantasies has a lot to do with, well, what you want. If what you want is especially kinky, strange, or, uh, invasive, then it's best to talk about it beforehand-- and probably with your clothes on. (Maybe after a bottle of wine or three?) But if what you want is something small that you've simply never tried before (like "can I lightly slap your butt?") you can generally ask during the deed.

Plant the seed. Some men aren't afraid to say just what they want-- they may even advertise it on their internet dating profiles! But others are too nervous to come right out and tell their girl about their dirtiest fantasies. In that case, it's a good idea to start small. Plant the idea of your fantasy in her head; perhaps tell her you had a dream about it or had a friend who tried it. This will get her thinking about it, and give you a good idea of how she might react if you were to ask.

Offer her control. If your bedroom request is something that makes your girl uncomfortable, offer her control of the situation. Make sure she knows she can stop at any time, and if there's a wardrobe or other accessories involved, give her control over choice. It will help her to feel a lot more comfortable with the situation in general. And if she's comfortable, she'll have a lot more fun.

Start with hers. Are you one of those guys who tends to think men are more sexual than women? Then you might be surprised at the things your partner fantasizes about. If you want to see you fantasies fulfilled, you may just want to start off with hers. Ply her with a few glasses of wine and get her to reveal to you what turns her on. After you've given her what she wants, you'll be in a much better position to get what you want.

Don't press too hard. Sometimes the answer to your sexual requests is simply "no." Other times, your girl might be reluctant or a little turned-off by the idea of what you want. Give her time. If you press her too hard for what you want, chances are you will never get it. Let her get comfortable with the idea before you bring it up again. And if she's still reluctant, give her more time. Getting what you want in the bedroom is something you should go about gently. Pressing her too hard is the quickest way to get a real --and very final-- "heck no."

With some women, there's little chance of you seeing your wilder or kinkier fantasies fulfilled. But if your partner is open-minded and easy-going, there's a good chance you can get what you want in the bedroom. All you need to do is learn to ask the right questions in the right way. Good luck, and have fun!

By: Shawn Wilson

Labels: attract women, bedroom, fantasies, men, sex

What will you do if you are in the middle of a party and you catch someone looking at you? Or, how will you react to someone if they suddenly stand beside you? Obviously, you would return the favor by giving a luscious smile or charismatic gaze. Well, this is an active, fabulous flirting session.

How did relationships start? Through initial flirtations. How did online dating develop into real dating? Obviously, flirting flourished even with the most serious relationships. So what does flirting do to offline and online dating? These gestures signify exclusive interest.

Flirting is fun because you can give signals without the obvious stare or actions that you like the person. Nonetheless, flirting can harm commitment. This can easily shaken fidelity but it is still being done by singles and couples due to its sexy and enjoying results. Some persons are making good flirtations while others are giving bad flirty signals.

Do you think you are a real flirt? Well, if you are, you must be proud of yourself. People like flirtations and its ultimately sexy when it comes to flirting. Not only do simple gestures suggest flirting, sometimes whispering, touching, and giving particular attention means flirting. Using flirtations should be appropriate in the right instances and ambiance. In contrast, wrong situations can get you killed in starting relationships. Always remember that there is thin line between unwanted sexual gestures and flirting.

It is appropriate to search for the key points in flirting. This can greatly improve your flirting skills and eventually useful during working out the persons you like. Mirroring is one of the most famous flirting skills. This is shown when you keep your glance on almost all body parts and gestures. This happens when a person copies your body gestures but still maintaining eye contact. If you notice someone doing this to you, that person really likes you.

Here are some flirting guides you might want to know and practice:

Hair and Mouth
Hair playing such as in toying or stroking actions
Hair playing in coordination with eye contact
Hair touching at any place or time
Teeth flashing, open mouthed, or smiling often at your direction
Licking lips at your direction
Simulating a kiss through lip puckering
Tongue touching teeth or lips while looking at you

Eye Contact
Maintaining eye contact with dilated pupils
While looking at you, one of the eyebrows is arched
Various forms of winking
Blinking and rapid movement of the eyes
Eye contact together with longer gaze (as if she's a good student listening to your lectures). Men usually look on other directions

Touching
Persons who like you will reach you out in any way possible or will touch you on any excuse
Offers of placing food similar to feeding
They will mingle with their hands first and then play with your hands

Body Movement
Outward posture of breasts or chest, which is similar to boisterous acts along with eye contact
Dancing to disco music while making long eye contacts
Crossed legs sitting position pointing towards your direction

Mirroring your posture
Eye contact while leaning towards your body
Open legs sitting position while facing you
Display of arm or thigh flesh

Always remember to enjoy flirting by being receptive to person's action and analyze what is really happening. These flirtations will take your wildest dreams to reality.

By: Wayne James

This Valentine's Day, celebrate by giving each other a sensual massage. Not only is this a wonderfully romantic act that will wow your special someone, but it's inexpensive to do.

Item's needed for the massage:
- Lotion or oil to massage with
- Quiet place to give the massage
- Music to relax too
- Scented candles to provide lighting and create a romantic atmosphere

Preparation for the massage:
- Prior to the massage, ask the massage receiver if they have favorite places they like massaged (such as scalp and neck) or don't like massaged (ticklish feet).
- Another thing to look for is any bruises or broken skin. These areas should be avoided during the massage.
- For the person receiving the massage, if the massage is on a bed, have them lay face down with their head at the foot of the bed (reverse of normal sleeping position). One of the secrets to giving a great massage is being comfortable while doing it. By standing at the foot of the bed during a massage, you have easy and comfortable access to massaging the back and neck.
- The person receiving the massage should be disrobed at much as comfortably possible.
- Before starting the massage, turn off all phones and electronic gizmos.

Giving the massage:
- For most amateur massagers, the safest and most effective technique is effleurage. This technique is a broad, sliding stroke that is intensely relaxing. In addition, in the right environment it is very sensual. Effleurage is also the most commonly used stroke for Swedish massage.
- For great video examples of the effleurage technique and massage, search on YouTube. There are some great playlists demonstrating this technique. Massage is a great example where an image is worth a thousand words.

Receiving the massage:
- Provide feedback. Whether it's with words, by a moan of pleasure or a squeal of pain, let the person massaging you know what works and what doesn't. This is one of those few times it's all about you, so make the most of it.

Additional Tips:
- Don't eat a heavy meal prior to the massages. The combination of lots of food and the massage will make the first person who received the massage want to go to sleep after their massage. This can lead to frustration for the other person!

- The ideal situation is a light meal with some wine, give each other massages and then follow-up with a heavier meal later, if so desired.

Follow the above guidelines and you are guaranteed an evening of sensual romance, making this Valentine's Day the best ever!

By: Tina Woodall

Article Source: http://www.articlekingpro.com

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Understanding a woman and keeping her happy has been a mystery to men. Do you really know how to keep your woman happy? Find the answers here to that age-old question.

- First and foremost, be yourself. A woman does not like a man who puts on a show just to get her interested and then finds out the man is not who she thought he was. Even if you think you are not sexy, prim and proper or handsome enough to catch the eye of a beautiful woman, be yourself and do not put on a fake persona. Have confidence in yourself, and you will catch the interest of women. Maybe you have noticed that some of the most beautiful women have boyfriends or husbands that are not all that appealing to the eye (I did not want to say just plain ugly). Most women are attracted to men that exude confidence over men with just physical attributes.

- Show her that you care by doing the little things. Women do remember the little things that you do sometimes more than the "grand events." Offer to run an errand, clean or do maintenance on her car. The little acts of kindness will add up to help build her trust and heat up the relationship. A woman will feel if you do not do the little things during the courtship, you surely will not do them later in the relationship.

- Show her appreciation. Never take a woman for granted, as she will only be with you for as long as she thinks the relationship is worth the effort. If she feels valuable and appreciated by you, she will want a long and lasting relationship.

- Do not flirt or look at other women when she is with you. Even though you think that she may not notice, there is nothing a woman will miss her man doing, out of the corner of her eye. If she catches you looking, she will feel as if you are comparing her to the other woman. She will not understand the "natural born desire" for a man to look at other women. Women, as a rule, feel more comfortable with the idea of "one man, one woman" that she builds a family with for life. It is the way a woman is programmed. She cannot help it. Stop the drooling and keep your eyes on your woman.

- Keep her laughing. Lighten up, have fun and make her laugh. Women like a man with humor. It helps to take her mind off of all the world's troubles that she has to deal with. The more you make her feel good and have fun, the more she will want to be with you.

- Find out what she likes. Nothing will draw a relationship closer than a common interest or hobby. Ask her what she likes to do, and find something that has common ground. If you discover something that she is passionate about, then she will be passionate for you when the two of you do it together.

- Do not stop taking care of yourself when you do get the girl. If you want her to keep her eye on you, then continue to give her something to look at. Men, as a general rule, stop taking as much care of their looks or hygiene once they have "landed" a woman. Continue to look sharp and smell good, and she will notice, even on the weekends or during downtime. Do not give her reasons to become uninterested in you.

- Fit in with her family and friends. If you do not try to fit in with her family and friends, it will put undue tension and stress on her when you are around them. You will not like everyone you meet, but do not be too vocal about her peers. This will only make her feel less of you if she truly cherishes her family and friends. A woman gauges herself by her social circle, so do not be too judgmental.

- Be considerate of her feelings. Men have more stability than women. The little things do not bother a man as much as a woman. A woman can have HUGE mood swings, and something that did not bother her yesterday can be a "huge deal" today.

- Be open to new things. Things may need to be done differently at the beginning of the relationship. You have to make her feel comfortable and do things the way she likes them in the beginning. After a while as the relationship grows, it will become more routine and comfortable to you. This could include everything from the time or days that she is willing to go out, to the way you kiss. If your relationship starts to get dull or boring, try something new to spice it up. This will make it more fun for you and will keep her interested.

Keeping the relationship fresh and intriguing will help to keep your woman happy. These ten tips along with other secret tips that you can discover will help you to "keep your woman happy."

written by By: Tony Edwards
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Labels: happy, interest, love, marriage, relationship, tips, understand, woman

Every woman knows if the sex goes sour you have a good chance of the relationship going with it. In all honesty most women know the relationship is nearing the end when your partner is no longer happy in bed. Here's a few definitive ways you can keep your man happy in bed.

Sure some couples go through a rough time when the sex just isn’t as exciting or maybe it’s downright dull. If you want to keep your man then you have to spice up your sex life again.

Men start to stray when the sex begins boring or non existent so if you don’t want that to happen then you have to learn how to keep your man happy in bed. Take a few minutes and re-evaluate your sex life and how you can keep your partner happy when he is with you.

Do you have sex once a week or as often as possible? If you’re only having sex once every week asks yourself why? If you cannot come up with a real good reason then you need to make time or put more effort into your sex life. This is not to say the lack of sex in your relationship is your fault. There are three ways to keep you man happy in bed.

The first is to follow his lead just like dancing, only horizontal.
- If he is vocal then you be vocal.
- If he is daring and always willing to try new things then you be willing to try new things.
- If he likes to mix things up then mix them up!

The above listed ways will keep your man happy in bed assuming that you are performing at you best.

If you find that you only own one silky see through sexy lingerie then you need to buy more, men enjoy the thrill of what’s underneath even though they know what’s underneath! If you just lie there and let him do all the work, then you need to become wiser and more active in bed. It is a fact that men enjoy being in control but they also enjoy being controlled.

Boost their ego with a little dirty talk, if you lay their like a dead fish flopping around sooner or later he’s going to be turned off by this. Men need to know they are pleasuring you so it’s important to not only show them but to tell them as well.

These three simple often over looked things will indeed keep your man happy in bed and keep him from looking for a new bed!

By: Chris Roberts
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If you’re in a sexual relationship, there’s probably more on your mind than chocolate and flowers when it comes to Valentine’s Day. No doubt, you’re thinking about putting the moves on your sweetheart to get some hot sex going in the bedroom.

If you want to ensure you have sex that sizzles, here are 6 tips to make it happen.

1. Buy a private “love gift.” Give it to your partner when you get to the bedroom. It can be a toy, a flavored lubricant, a fragrant candle, or a bottle of champagne to drink alone.
2. Be seductive. Just because you both know where the evening is leading doesn’t mean you should head straight to the bedroom. Give your partner compliments. Flirt. Whisper what you want to do to their body in their ear over dinner.
3. As soon as you’re together, start being affectionate. Don’t wait until minutes before you want to have sex. And don’t smother your partner, either. Just be genuinely warm and loving toward your partner. This day is all about romance.
4. Try tender sex. If you usually are aggressive, try being sweet. Show your partner another side of yourself. Reveal how sexy you are when you slow down to a simmer. Valentine’s Day is all about expressing the gentler side.
5. Try aggressive sex. If you are usually passive in bed, trying initiating sex. Give your partner a treat and show how much you care all at the same time. After all, sometimes what’s hot is ignoring convention. Instead of sweet Valentine sex, try it tough.
6. Have a little “after treat.” When your lovemaking is over, let your partner know you appreciate this private gift you’ve enjoyed together. Have a Valentine’s card hidden beneath the pillow to give to your lover or an extra chocolate in your nightstand drawer.

Valentine’s Day is about love, yes, but it’s also about passionate sex. The symbols of the holiday—flowers, perfume, chocolate, and gems—are seductive. Let yourself be carried away.

By: Dr. Stephanie Buehler

Labels: date, gifts, hot, love, relationship, sex, valentine's

Love is everywhere. In fact, flirting tips and dating tips are there to help you out in your dating dilemmas and problems. If you are still single and have not found the perfect person yet, try online dating. Some people have tried it and confessed that it has worked for them. They have met the person they want to share the rest of their life with and found them on the internet. Amazing isn’t it? Back then, people frequented bars and disco clubs because they are looking for dates and partners. But now, the trend has gone online.

What are some flirting tips and dating tips that are tested and true? If you are going to look for an online dating site, be sure that it is recommended and reliable enough. Some sites may give free online dating services but they do not give you the best results. If you choose a paid online dating site or agency, the results and options are worth the pay. In online dating, you will be asked to write or fill out your profile. This will be your stepping-stone to meeting the love of your life.

It does not matter how old you are or what you look like. The thing is to make your profile desirable enough to attract attention. Use your creativity and express yourself. Have fun doing your profile and give a lasting impression. Do not let people think that you are a lonely or a desperate person. Keep in mind, it is being positive and happy about yourself to attract others. Once you have selected the persons you like, try to be patient for a while. Do not rush things and do it little by little.

Before doing meet-ups, know the person first. What is his or her personality? Does he or she have what it takes? Do you like the person? It is best if you think of your own security. Is the person safe enough to go out with? Do not force a person to meet you up immediately. Take things slowly and gradually know the person as time goes by. Let them know that you have good intentions and that you are a patient person. Remember, you are not a hopeless person so do not make things too quick. Meet the person when both of you are ready for the real date. The dating may go a long way if you know how to act well. Chat with them or send emails occasionally if you have time.

Communication is very important but do not overdo it. Some people can get so annoying when they want to talk with you 24/7. Answer questions politely and avoid making harsh conversations. Once you have decided to finally meet-up, it is best if you pick a public place. An amusement park or mall could be a great place to go. Do not go to a location you are not familiar with. You might get lost or you might end up in danger. These are just few of the flirting tips and dating tips you can try for yourself. Finally, look for a dating site that only gives the right services.

PUT an END to FLIRTING EMBARRASSMENT & REJECTION ONCE and for ALL….
OVERCOME FLIRTERS FREEZE & Meet More PEOPLE NATURALLY…

By: lucy watson
Article Source: http://www.bigfreearticles.com
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It is very significant to be mindful of safety while you go for dating with a person you do not know. Both online and face-to-face meetings and communication can land you in detrimental situations. But with proper grounding and careful contemplation you can avoid those situations. In today’s era, it is better to avoid the side of caution when it comes to dating especially online dating.

Following are some of the safety guidelines to ensure your fortification and privacy on your date with a stranger:

• Always meet in a public area like a shopping centre/mall, restaurant or coffee shop. Public places like museum, park and movie theatre are also good choice.

• Avoid the date at your home or their home. It is advisable to select the place with which you are familiar like the coffee bar you frequently visit.

• Start the date by saying that you are meeting someone at a particular time. This will make it easier to leave the date as early as you want.

• Never accept an invitation to a party where you are not knowing anyone or do not trust the person giving the party.

• Avoid giving your home phone number to the person. You can give your cell phone number or pager number. It is advisable to exchange only your messenger id.

• Never give out your living address.

• Take a mobile/cell phone with you on the date.

• Tell your friends where you are going and ask them to call you within an hour into the date to see you are going well.

• Take ample amount of cash and change with you on your date to cover any unforeseen event.

• Always provide your own transport.

• Keep your body language affirmative and confident.

• Avoid spiked drinks offered by strangers. There are many drugs which are tasteless when mixed into a drink. Watch carefully while your drink is prepared and if you even deduce that your drink has been spiked then don’t drink it.

• Don’t dress too enlightening or evocative. You might be entering unsafe territory.

• If your date is with the person with whom you have never personally met before, arrange to meet for coffee or lunch during daylight in a highly evident place where there are lots of people. It is advisable to bring a friend with you.

• Do a reality check:

• If your date says incredible which creeps you out, be straight and ask exactly what he or she means. If your date blushes then you will know it might have been a slip of the tongue.

• Listen cautiously to their relationship history. It can help you find out whom you are dating.

• Carefully watch their body language. If they are being violent, invading your personal space and trying to be overriding, it may be time to leave.

• Continuously check whether you feel safe in the location.

• Listen to your body because it often knows better than your mind when it is in hazard. Is that feeling horror or thrill?

300 Creative and Inexpensive Date Ideas

By: Coleen Brown
Article Source: http://www.bigfreearticles.com
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By: Robert Thomson


It's a known fact that not every man knows how to get a date. In fact, the self conscious types are probably those who never learned how to approach women. These are the men who may retreat back to their caves when presented with the opportunity to meet single women. Here are five great tips on how to get a date.

These tips aren't fail proof, but they have worked for guys who don't know much about how to get a date, and if followed they can help you too.

1. Practice speaking to women - You won't really know the factors that prevent you from approaching women unless you start practicing in an environment that does not put pressure on you to close the deal. If you work in an office, you can chat up your female co-workers while you're in the cafeteria for lunch. Join a table and start mingling. You are under no obligation to flirt, and you're not even expected to show romantic interest, so you can practice "being yourself".

2. Seize opportunities to mingle - You may not feel like it, but attending every party, barbeque or picnic that you're invited to will soon help you feel more comfortable around the opposite sex. Most dating tips say to get out of your comfort zone. I slightly disagree and recommend that the basic principle in learning how to get a date is to start where you feel comfortable. Try not to be too choosy about which party or gathering you attend, just go to practice being around women.

3. Create Opportunity - In a word, advertise your single status! The best way to tell the world you're single is by joining dating games (speed dating, match making etc.) and by signing up in dating sites. Better yet, share your thoughts about being single in your own weblog. It is possible that your blog will be read by someone who could be searching for love. You can consider your blog ad your dating profile as your message in a bottle. You're putting yourself out there, and like in romantic novels, your true love will soon find you.

4. Seize Opportunity - Why wait, says another advice on how to get a date. Get out and find single women who are waiting for someone like you to come along. This means going to places where girls advertise their single status. Aggressive dating is how all the pick up artists in the world will describe this strategy. She's there waiting for someone to talk to. Your role is to be the prince she is waiting for.

5. Look inside your own circle of Friends. Did you ever consider that your dream girl may be someone you already know? Ask yourself which woman among your friends would treasure you more as a boyfriend than a friend. There could be someone very close to you who may have been dreaming of having a romantic relationship with you. Simply open your eyes to true love and you will find it.

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300 Creative and Inexpensive Date Ideas People Are Using to Leave Great Impressions, Rekindle Relationships and Have More Fun!

Labels: attract women, date, find, how to, men, relationships

The Cardinal Rule of Life - "Never stay where you are not appreciated."

This applies to all phases of life - jobs, sports, and social activities - but it especially applies to dealing with single women.

If a girl is not interested in you, then that is that. Nothing you can do is going to change it. Don't waste time with people who aren't into you. Even if she looks like the girl of your dreams, it will lead nowhere so move on. By hanging around this girl, you portray an image to her and everyone else that you are a person who is found unattractive by women. And worse, you are used to it. After all, if you had other women who were attracted to you why would you be hanging around her?

When are you not being appreciated? When you are the only one putting energy into the relationship. You are the glue holding the whole thing together. She is neither showing nor giving any effort or energy towards being with you. She's not making herself available to get together. She lacks enthusiasm. In sum, when trying to get something to develop is a struggle.

If you experience these symptoms and recognize the lack of "magic" present when two people are mutually interested, don't try any remedies - just leave. Don't make a speech, or a scene, or an issue. Simply bow out gracefully and pursue girls who are interested in you. You will be doing yourself and everyone else a big favor.

P.S. - This article is an excerpt from "A Man's Guide to Women."

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500 Secrets About Girls Every Guy Should Know

Labels: courting, dating, interest, move on, single woman

It's a sad fact of life, but at some point in your life you will get dumped by a girlfriend. And, no guy likes to get dumped, especially by someone you cared for and loved. But, love is a two-way street. Both parties have to love and nurture a relationship to keep it alive. It's no good to be involved in a one-way relationship with a woman that you love and she does not love you back.
I know you're going to feel like shit in the beginning after your girlfriend breaks up with you. But, you will get over her a hell of a lot easier if you will take these steps to get over her and get on with your life:

1. 1. Don't sit around feeling sorry for yourself and try to scheme up ways to get your girlfriend back. Don't make any efforts whatsoever and whatever you do, don't call her or write her.
2. You need to block her out of your life completely and pretend that she does not even exist on this earth anymore.
3. If you have any pictures of her laying around, on the wall, or in your wallet, hide them in your attic or somewhere where you will not likely see them. Even better, throw them away or burn them. You could be nice and return them to her if you desire.
4. Here's a good ritual to get her out of your system: Sit down and write her a letter telling her pissed off and hurt you are about her dumping you and tell her good bye and you don't want to ever see her again. Don't mail this letter, but just set it aside somewhere. This is just a good way to vent your feelings and make you feel better.
5. Block out of your mind all the good times you had. Just focus on the negative and bad times (her bitchy moods, her always nagging you, standing you up for dates, refusing to have sex with you, telling her you love her and she does not say anything in return, her not returning your calls, her flirting with other guys when you go out, her unsightly nose hairs, her fat ass, all your arguments, etc.). After some serious thinking, you may come to realize that you had mostly bad times and things worked out for the best by you getting out of an unhappy relationship.
6. Be sure and hide or destroy any love letters or cards she may have given to you.
7. Return any gifts she may given to you. You don't need the reminders of her and I would consider throwing them away or donating them to the needy.
8. Don't listen to the crying in your beer songs or songs that you shared together. Listen only to upbeat music that will cheer you up. Laying around listening to sad songs is only going to make you feel worse.
9. If you can, avoid going to places that will remind you of your ex.

In conclusion, keep real active and busy and spend a lot of time with your friends. And most importantly, get back in circulation and start dating again. And, don't be choosy and particular when you start dating again. Date any and all single women. You need to get back in the groove and don't hold out waiting for some Playboy Playmate type to come along.

Now You Can Stop Your Break Up, Divorce or Lovers Rejection...Even If Your Situation Seems Hopeless!

by Don Diebel www.getgirls.com
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The power of seduction is perhaps one of woman's strongest instincts. This drive probably goes back to ancient times when a woman seduced a man to gain protection and food in order to survive. Over the centuries this drive has evolved to become more subtle, but certainly not weaker. We see today even pre-school girls "seducing" their fathers to get what they want. Girls learn at an early age that men can be manipulated with nothing more than a little female attention.

Of course, the attention that single women use translates to sexuality. But it doesn't even take a promise of sex - merely the hint or suggestion of sex is enough to manipulate or seduce a man into doing what a woman wants him to do. As a matter of fact, some women grow up finding so much success using their "charms" that seduction becomes second nature to them. Most often, they are not even aware that they are doing it. Usually these women grew up around men who were very susceptible to female attention, so that from an early age these women learned how to get what they wanted. So, if money is important to a man because with it he can get what he wants, in the same way, the power of seduction is important to a single woman because with it she too can get things she wants.

What all this means to you, the man trying to understand single women, is that women like to know they have that power of seduction. Single women are very stimulated by an opportunity to affirm that power. They love a chase. They love a man who is a "catch" - someone who is hard to get. A man who makes himself easy denies a woman her desire to prove her powers of seduction. She will be bored with this man and go after one who stimulates her desire for a challenge. This is something that every man must remember when dealing with single women.

P.S. - This article is an excerpt from "A Man's Guide to Women."

Make Her Crave Sex The Easy Way
By Following An Analytical Genius's
Step-by-Step Seduction System

Labels: attract women, men, seduction, sex, sexual

Women are attracted to a man that other women find attractive. To understand this trait, one has only to look at what it says about a man when he is with a woman.

He must have things going for him or she wouldn't be with him.
He must know how to treat a woman.
He is going to be hard to get - a catch. After all, there is more than one woman vying for his time.
If a man is with another woman, or has a steady girlfriend, it makes him safe. He is not out on the prowl. Women love to flirt, to express their sensuality and to test their alluring abilities. But women want to be able to do this without being "hit on" or "come on" to. So who better to flirt with, and to feel comfortable with, than a man who is safe.

Though most women will deny it, women are very competitive. They love to prove the superiority of their seductive abilities by being the one to catch the man that all the women want. Women love to show off their date when they know all of their friends are envious. The lure of competing for the popular guy is strong indeed.

Being seen with a woman is probably the single most important thing a man can do to help his image. It says that you have things going for you, that you know how to treat a woman, and that you are a catch and it states all of this without uttering a single word. But how does this help you if you don't already have a girlfriend or a date? Throughout the book, we will show you many ways to be seen with women and many ways to suggest that women find you attractive - even when you don't have a girlfriend.

P.S. - This article is an excerpt from "A Man's Guide to Women."

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The Secret Tricks To Virtually Eliminate ALL Rejection From Women

Labels: attract women, date, how to, love, seduce

If a single woman is not as sexually interested in you for romance as you are in her, then your relationship has a basic weakness that may be an insolvable problem.

In other words, if you are the only one making sexual advances, if you feel as though it's a battle to get her interested or aroused, if she never takes the initiative to make the right time and place for sex to occur, if she's not interested in exploring new positions or locations, if she's never interested in round 2 or 3, or if she never initiates spur of the moment sex, then she's probably not sexually attracted to you.

Oh, she likes you fine, and you are convenient to her at this time in her life. You provide security, you are safe, or for any of a thousand reasons she is with you, but she's not sexually interested in you. And that makes your hold on her very weak. When you are no longer convenient to her, or she meets someone who does turn her on, you have no further hold on her and she's gone.

Don't fall for her excuses. The specific ones: This isn't the right time; I don't feel well; not here, someone might come by; that hurts me; I just took a shower; we don't have time. Or the general ones: I'm still suffering from a bad relationship and need time; I have a lot of important things on my mind; I'm overweight and self-conscious about my body.

These are just that, excuses. She may actually believe them but don't you fall for them. If she was really sexually attracted to you, then there would be no need for excuses. Things aren't going to get better. There will always be an excuse.

This situation is bad for you not only because of your frustration, but because of your self-esteem. Constantly being told by someone's actions that you are not sexy is not good for your self-image.

So when there is no sexual magic, start looking for her replacement. Don't dump her until you've found one because your search is easier when you have a girl - but start looking today.

P.S. - This article is an excerpt from, "A Man's Guide to Women."

500 Secrets About Girls Every Guy Should Know

Labels: interested, sex, signals, tell, tips, woman

To be more correct, single women don't want sex - they want good sex and romance. Women's desires are much greater than most men realize. But, unlike men, who are just after sex, single women are looking for great sexual experiences. Single women are very discriminating and choosy in picking sexual partners.

They are only interested in having a sexual encounter with a partner that:
Sexually arouses them.

Promises, by his manner or image or personality, to be "good in bed."
Single women want exciting, provocative, imaginative partners who will lead them through great sexual experiences. Though their sexual desire may be very high, they will pass up just any sexual encounter waiting to find the one that promises to be special.

The fact that single women are choosy about who they go to bed with and have sex with is a dilemma for men, but there is one good aspect to this trait. Single women, once they do choose, tend to stay with him, and are reluctant to change partners. Single women know that good sex is hard to find, so once they have it, they would rather hang on to that relationship than go back out into the market place. Keep in mind this propensity to stay in a relationship because sex exists only as long as the sex is good.

The last thought in this section is something that we have come to realize is a cardinal rule to be used in reading women. That is: SINGLE WOMEN HAVE SEX WITH MEN WHO THEY WANT TO HAVE SEX WITH. At first, this phrase may sound too simple and obvious to have any wisdom to it, but let us expand on it.

The meaning behind it is, that if a woman decides that she would like to sleep with someone, she will pursue that person relentlessly. And on the other hand, if a woman has decided that she is not interested in sleeping with someone, no amount of pursuit or persuasion is going to move her. Many men have wasted their precious time and energy by ignoring this reality.

P.S. - This article is an excerpt from "A Man's Guide to Women."

What is The Woman in My Life Thinking Right NOW?
How Can I Learn to Understand Her and Her Feelings? Learn HOW YOU CAN Be a Romantic and Unforgettable Lover!

Labels: bedroom, romance, sex, singles, women

• by REBECCA DEOS
  
  
  With everyone tightening their belts this year, there is no reason that Valentine’s Day needs to suffer. Quite to the contrary, building an evening of romance on a limited budget is a great exercise to show that love romance and intimacy is not tied to your wallet or pocketbook. It’s simply about the two of you spending time together, sharing and having fun.
  
  
  With everyone’s lives being extremely stressful this year, a great theme for Valentine’s Day is “Teamwork!” Use Valentine’s Day as a reminder of the basics: Whatever situation the economy has put you in, you are a team and can get through it together.
  
  
  Here are a few tips to begin thinking about for this Valentine’s Day.
  
  
• Lower your expectations.Like many holidays, we seem to build expectations of what would constitute the perfect Valentine’s Day. Anything short of that perfect vision then leaves you feeling unsatisfied. There are many things out of your control, understand that real life will more than likely interfere at some point.
  
• Plan with your partner. We all like surprises and to see our partner make the effort to plan something they think we would enjoy. With life being extremely stressful this year, make it a team building exercise and plan it together.
  
• Think communication. Last month, we found a store than sells bulk candy, including some of the cheap penny candies we haven’t seen since we were kids. We filled the bag, and plan on eating it on Valentine’s Day, talking about the childhood memories the candy brings back. Similarly, look through childhood pictures, yearbooks or mementos and the memories associated with it. You’ll be surprised at how fulfilling it can be, and how much you can still learn about your partner.
  
• Eating Out. Going out to dinner is a Valentine’s Day tradition for many. If it’s a tradition you would like to keep, begin searching your local newspaper now for Valentine’s Day specials. Also search online for coupons and specials. It doesn’t sound sexy or romantic, but also doesn’t leave you with regret the next day for breaking your budget. Planning it ahead gives you the opportunity to scout the best deals plan your budget and not be stressed about it on Valentine’s Day.
  
• Eating In If you are planning on staying in, plan a meal you can cook together. A variety of small finger foods is great, since you can cook, nibble and talk all at the same time.
  
• No TV, no movies TV and movies allow you to do one thing, watch. Think interaction instead. Ask friends if you can borrow a few board games that you don’t currently own for the evening, so that you have a variety of different to choose from.
  
• Mentally prepare With the stresses of daily life, it becomes hard to suddenly unwind and relax. Everyone needs downtime from the business end of life to recharge their batteries. Begin reminding yourself now that you are allowed to take time off from the worries of daily life and enjoy each other’s company.
  
• Pick an evening or two before Valentine’s Day to spend some time together. It’s only natural that sitting down and spending time together wil lead to discussions of work, finance and the kids. Planning on time beforehand allows you to purge yourself of those issues, and make Valentine’s Day about the two of you.

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Whether you’ve been married a year or a decade, you’ve probably discovered that sex can go stale, no matter how much you love your partner. Keeping sex hot in a monogamous relationship is a challenge—but can you think of a better one to tackle?
As any sex therapist will tell you, there really are differences between men and women when it comes to sex. As long as a man is still in good health, he generally needs little priming to get ready for sex. While that doesn’t mean he won’t enjoy foreplay, just the thought of making love is enough to make him ready.

Women need more. They generally express the need to know that sex means more than just a physical release. Yes, physical release is good for women, but for women orgasm comes more easily and may even feel better if sex has some emotional meaning.

Sometimes men really don’t seem to understand how to make sex meaningful to their wife. Because a man sees the act of sex as an expression of love, he may not get what he needs to do to create trust and intimacy.

That is where the art of seduction comes in. To seduce someone means to entice them, to make the idea of sex very appealing. Seduction requires charm. You need to be clever, to make yourself not only attractive to your wife, but to attract her to you as well.

One way to seduce your wife is to let her know how much you love her. And I don’t just mean her chest or tush. I mean all of her. Tell her how much you love her face, her hands, the curve of her calf. Tell her you love her kindness and her laugh. Notice the things that made you first fall in love with her, and tell her that you still notice.

Another way to seduce her is to add some romance to your day. This is true most especially on a day that you are feeling in the mood for sex. You needn’t make a big gesture or spend a lot of money. Leave a little note someplace only she will see it (her makeup drawer, on top of her handbag). Or pour her a glass of wine or sparkling water and bring her a plate of cheese and fruit when she comes home at the end of the day.

The third important thing to remember if you want to seduce your wife is to start making love by touching her hands, arms, face, neck, and back before you move onto her more erotic areas. Most women need to be warmed up a bit before they like being touched in an intimate way. Touching and kissing your wife tenderly will show that you love and respect this about her.

These things may be small, but they are very important. And you can’t just do them once and expect her to be enchanted with you forever. You need to repeat, repeat, repeat. But not the exact same thing! Following a formula will just seem forced. You need to seduce your wife with love, from the heart.

Just because you’ve been together awhile doesn’t mean you should give up on doing all the things lovers do. You can get, and keep, your wife’s interest in sex if you know how to show her that you still love her and that sex means something to you, too.

by STEPHANIE BUEHLER

Labels: make love, seduce, sex, wife, woman

Premature ejaculation (PE) is the most common sexual dysfunction in men younger than 40 years. Most professionals who treat premature ejaculation define this condition as the occurrence of ejaculation prior to the wishes of both sexual partners. This broad definition thus avoids specifying a precise duration for sexual relations and reaching a climax, which is variable and depends on many factors specific to the individuals engaging in intimate relations. An occasional instance of premature ejaculation might not be cause for concern, but, if the problem occurs with more than 50% of attempted sexual relations, a dysfunctional pattern usually exists for which treatment may be appropriate.

To clarify, a male may reach climax after 8 minutes of sexual intercourse, but this is not premature ejaculation if his partner regularly climaxes in 5 minutes and both are satisfied with the timing. Another male might delay his ejaculation for a maximum of 20 minutes, yet he may consider this premature if his partner, even with foreplay, requires 35 minutes of stimulation before reaching climax. If intercourse is the method of sexual stimulation for the second example and the male climaxes after 20 minutes of intercourse and then loses his erection, satisfying his partner (at least with intercourse), who needs 35 minutes to climax, is impossible.
Because many females are unable to reach climax at all with vaginal intercourse (no matter how prolonged), this situation may actually represent delayed orgasm for the female partner rather than premature ejaculation for the male; the problem can be either or both, depending on the point of view. This highlights the importance of obtaining a thorough sexual history from the patient (and preferably from the couple).

The human sexual response can be divided into 3 phases: desire (libido), excitement (arousal), and orgasm. The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fourth Edition (DSM-IV) classifies sexual disorders into 4 categories: (1) primary, (2) general medical condition–related, (3) substance-induced, and (4) not otherwise specified. Each of the 4 DSM-IV categories has disorders in all 3 sexual phases.

Premature ejaculation may be primary or secondary. Primary applies to individuals who have had the condition since they became capable of functioning sexually (ie, postpuberty). Secondary indicates that the condition began in an individual who previously experienced an acceptable level of ejaculatory control, and, for unknown reasons, he began experiencing premature ejaculation later in life. With secondary premature ejaculation, the problem does not relate to a general medical disorder, and it is usually not related to substance inducement, although, rarely, hyperexcitability might relate to a psychotropic drug and resolves when the drug is withdrawn. Premature ejaculation fits best into the category of not otherwise specified because no one really knows what causes it, although psychological factors are suggested in most cases.



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